You are in charge of how others treat you. Let that sink in.
The more you allow others to disrespect you, the more comfortable they feel doing it.
You may tell yourself it’s not a big deal, but since it’s your dignity on the line, you should consider it a massive deal. After all, if you don’t defend your place in this world, no one else will.
Unfortunately, many of us fail to understand this concept. We gullibly believe that people change. We gather all of our patience and wait until they realize we deserve better. But they never do, do they?
The sooner you realize you are the only person who gets to decide how others treat you, the better. If you carry yourself with confidence and grace, no one will even think about disrespecting you. But if you don’t believe in yourself and it shows, others will have no reason to look up to you.
The way you see yourself determines the way others see you. This is a constant you should live by.
“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
Confucius
If you see yourself as a person worthy of respect and appreciation, those around you will notice. They will start treating you the way you deserve, not the way you allow them to. And if some individuals feel comfortable disrespecting you even after you have demanded to be treated right, you should avoid them at all costs.
You should be extremely careful around those who intentionally put you down. These are the people who want to see you fail. Not only do they not deserve your time, energy, and attention, but they are also bad for your mental health. They take every chance possible to undermine your accomplishments and crush your self-esteem. As twisted as it may sound, seeing you suffering makes them feel better about themselves.
You must distance yourself from people whose happiness is fueled by your misery. Though, have in mind that they will try to drag you down while doing so. They will do everything in their power to stop you from cutting them off of your life. But at the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you and your personal growth. And if that includes kicking toxic people out of your life, so be it.
If you don’t want others to take advantage of you, always demand respect.
If you are too afraid to assert what you’re worthy of, those around you might use your fear to control you. But if you show them what you’re made of and you will not settle for anything less than you deserve, they will realize they should be treating you right.
Stop putting up with disrespectful individuals who have no idea how to behave decently. Stop letting others walk all over you. Seriously, stop allowing people to treat you horribly, only to avoid confrontations.
Instead, start trusting your instincts. Start demanding the respect you deserve. Start standing up for what you believe in. The only person who gets to decide how others will treat you is YOU. So, make this decision count. You owe it to yourself.
