Almost all of us have had a partner that feels sorry about splitting up with us or someone that we regret we couldn’t keep our relationship with. And usually, when this happens the person who wasn’t Ok with the break-up cannot stop thinking what would it be if you two were still together.
So, If you are not sure whether or not your ex still wants you back, based on the opinion of experts we’ve outlined 8 telling signs to show he or she regrets losing you and might be trying to get back together with you.
Ex couldn’t be jealous of you if they have no feelings left. So, in case your ex is irritated by your new crush, it could only mean he or she still hasn’t got over your break-up.
Here is the opinion of rabbi and matchmaker in NYC, Shlomo Zalman Bregman:
“Do they show signs of jealousy if you’re going out at night with friends, seeing someone, or in a pic with a guy on social media? Those are terrific signs that they still feel strongly tethered to you”.
2. They keep in touch often
This one is a little bit tricky as it depends what exactly your ex-wants to talk with you about. For instance, if they only involve in small talks with you, it might not be a real sign they still have feelings as they could be doing it out of courtesy. If your ex-has more private conversations with you are sharing details about his or her life and want to know how yours is going, then it’s possible he or she might not have accepted the idea that you are not together.
3. They are interested if you have a new partner
Here is a perfect explanation for this situation provided by Bergman:
“If your ex-seems curious as to whether you’re dating someone new, that’s a great sign that they still think of you in ‘that way,’ and want to know if you’re still available.”
4. They very often talk with you about your past together
If your ex always reminds you about the past you’ve had together, it might mean they are not over you yet.
“If your ex-appears to give subtle references to you or moments from your former relationship on social media, it might be a way of dropping hints and hoping you’ll notice. Your ex might be afraid of making the first move towards getting back together,” Jonathan Bennett, relationship counselor says.
5. They ask other people about you
If your ex is continually asking your friends or acquaintances how you are doing it might mean he or she misses you too much and might want to get back together with you. This is also confirmed by marriage and family therapist Christie Tcharkhoutian.
“If your name is still coming up in casual conversations with mutual friends, they may still be interested in you/want you back. If you start dating someone new and you hear that they are curious/asking your friends, they may be regretting letting you go (as they rightfully should!),” Tcharkhoutian adds.
6. They want to talk your split-up over
This one is pretty obvious because if your ex openly invites you for a conversation about what went wrong between you, it means he or she is trying to get together with you again. This is also confirmed by Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, Founder of online relationship community:
“Maybe they have been working on themselves, want to apologize for their behavior or explain what was going on for them at the time. Either way, their desire to get together to discuss the demise of the relationship opens the door for healing,” says Milrad.
7. They won’t come to take their stuff from your house
If at your place you still have things that belong to your ex and if they always give you reasons why they cannot come and take them they might intend not to pick their stuff up. Here is why they might be doing this:
“By not picking up all their belongings and sending a strong message that the door is shut. They are leaving the door slightly cracked open by having an excuse to make contact with you in the future,” says Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, Founder of online relationship community.
8. They admit their mistakes
If your ex-admits their mistakes which led to the end of your relationship, there is a high chance that they feel sorry for what they’ve done and want to give your relationship another chance. Here is the opinion of Christie Tcharkhoutian.
“This would also indicate that they want to keep you as an option once they make the changes necessary to deserve being with you and ultimately, it becomes your decision if you would take them back,”
If you see that your ex is acting the way outlined above, it could mean that he or she hasn’t lost hope that you two might get back together.
As emotions can vary, it is possible that a relationship that didn’t go well before can turn out successful sometime in the future.
Whether or not getting back together with your ex is a good thing to do depends on many different factors – like for example in what stage of your lives you two are, if you have common points of view about the future, what the reasons for the split up were…
And it’s only up to you to decide if it’s worth giving the relationship another try. Of course, you should take time to think and figure out how you feel about it.