The following tips may help you understand why you are misleading yourself by thinking you are not worthy of long-term attention and true love.
1. You underestimate your own potential
You believe that you have nothing to offer, that something is deeply wrong with who you are. You believe that you don’t possess the magnetism needed to capture a good person’s attention. But you are being way too harsh on yourself. You are intelligent. You are beautiful. You are capable, strong, talented, and worthy. Your future partner will be lucky to have you. Just give it time.
2. You are putting too much emphasis on your heartache
You believe love will never find its way to you again. You think your chances of a happily ever after are gone and never to return. You assume you’ll never be so lucky. No matter how frustrated you feel at the moment, your best relationship was by no means a one-time experience. You will find someone who makes you fulfilled and happy again. You will feel the butterflies again. You will love and be loved in return.
3. You have closed yourself into a cynical, poisonous mindset
You believe any potential relationship will end up like your last one, that you will end up hurt once again in the end. You assume that your past is an indication of your future, which is absolutely false. You can use your past mistakes as building blocks by learning from them. You can make certain that your next relationship will turn out entirely different than the one that left you broken.
4. You are comparing your life to the lives of others
You compare yourself to your engaged or married friends. You compare yourself to romantic movie characters who met their forever love in high school. You keep allowing envy to get the best of you, but you have to realize that your path is not the same as theirs. You will move at a different pace and that’s alright. That’s nothing to worry about. Your time will come soon.
5. You think nothing will ever change
It may be difficult to believe, but your current state is just a phase and you will not be feeling this way for the rest of your life. Your world is everchanging. You are constantly evolving. Your current situation is not permanent. You must keep telling yourself that the heartache and loneliness you experience right now will go away with time.
6. You don’t have a great track record
Maybe you have been alone for a long stretch of time. Maybe you haven’t been in a serious relationship yet. Maybe the one you fell in love with turned out to be a manipulator and below your level. No matter the case, you should not dwell in the past. You must focus on your future. Just because you haven’t felt what a truly healthy, and strong relationship is up until now does not mean you will never be part of one in the future.
7. You are not aware of how much love is already around you
Even though you currently aren’t in a romantic relationship, there are many people who care about you, appreciate you, admire you, support you, and want what is best for you. You have friends and family who want you to know that you matter, that you are not as alone as you feel, and whatever you may be going through at the moment is just a bad stage in life designed to make you better and stronger.
We hope this article has managed to bring a little hope into your life. Let us know your thoughts on the subject by joining the conversation in the comments, and please share if you enjoyed the read.