Settling for second-best comes naturally to some people- but not to you! You’re single again because you do these 6 awesome things.
It seems like a lot of people in today’s society are in relationships because they are afraid to be alone. Or, they have become comfortable with the routine- even if the routine is drama and chaos.
It sounds crazy, and it is. At least to the person who has found themselves “single” once more.
That’s because you won’t settle for anything less than something that contributes growth- not just in the relationship, but for yourself as well. And if those needs aren’t met…well you’re not going to stick around to find out.
Sometimes being single is the better option, for a variety of reasons. And sometimes, it just boils down to one of these six:
1. You refuse to be the only adult in the relationship.
We’ve all been there. Whether you are a man, or a woman, you have probably been in a relationship with someone who made you facepalm at the lack of their adulting skills. No one wants to be a parent to their partner.
So when you see that red flag pop up (Jenny leaves her dirty plates around the house and won’t get a job/Jacob can only cook spaghetti and has a Pokemon Go addiction) you get out as quickly as possible.
2. Your friends told you so.
Normally, your friends stay out of your relationships- they know you well enough to let you do your thing. But there are some instances where even they can’t keep quiet.
You saw the raised eyebrow of confusion when you talked to your buds about so-and-so. They told you this wasn’t going to work out, and they saw the heartache coming from a mile away. Your friends only have your best interests in mind, and they don’t want to see you waste your time or energy on something that is inevitably doomed.
3. You have goals you want to accomplish first.
No, you’re not being selfish. Taking the time to do the things that are important to you is a key component of happiness. And if you aren’t happy with you, how the hell is anyone else supposed to be?
You want to travel the world alone? Do it. You want to learn Gaelic? Go for it. You want to start up your own cupcake boutique? Be sure to include a creme brulee variety.
4. You made a mistake.
Yes, mistakes happen. Your judgment can be flawed at times. Whether it was “a good idea at the time,” or a decision weighed by attractiveness, you realized it was a mistake.
Things can move too quickly for you and that’s when the realization hits. “Nope. This isn’t for me.”
5. Emotionally sticky situations.
Maybe you still talked to your ex. Maybe you and your partner were in the on-again/off-again relationship. Maybe he had mommy issues, or she had daddy problems.
Whatever it was, it made you feel like it was unnecessary. Besides, you like being single.
6. You had enough of the drama.
No, relationships aren’t always going to be easy and fun. There will be roadblocks. But there is a big difference between a roadblock and a tar pit.
Her family always commented on your appearance; he was allergic to your cat; she won’t stop complaining about her co-worker; he won’t let you keep your toothbrush at his house; she tries to make you more “macho”- whatever it is, you’ve had enough.
Regardless if you are a man, or a woman, you should try to do what makes you happy and stop trying to fit into the status quo of “being in a relationship.” I know it’s what society expects from us (go to school, get a job, get married, have kids), but it doesn’t matter. Take care of yourself. Only then will you be able to fully commit and be involved in a healthy relationship.
By Raven Fon