‘Now or never’ vs ‘Forever and a day’?

Nowadays real love is often believed to be either a temporary typhoon of passion and devotion or a lifetime commitment.

Are those the only definitions of romance?

“It’s now or never, come hold me tight.
Kiss me, my darling, be mine tonight.”

– Elvis Presley

Is this the only way you can have passion in your relationship?

One single night of wistful love followed by sweet memories you wouldn’t tell anyone about. Or do you have to dedicate your whole life to someone and be together forever?

“And I’ll be there forever and a day.
Always.”

– Bon Jovi

So, we could break down the issue to present and future time. The present is the ‘now or never‘ ideology, where the only thing that matters is what happens in the exact moment. What do you desire right now? What do you want to do today or tonight? After all, you never know when would be your last day.

On the contrary, the future holds all of our dreams and hopes.

Some might say, it holds the true meaning of love.

You make plans for the future with someone you believe you would spend your whole life with. What’s baffling about the future is that you never know what could happen. Almost everything in life is temporary, and this is stopping a lot of people from giving away their souls to only one person for eternity.

When you’re in love, you are constantly craving the company of your partner. You are thirsty for their sweet caress, and you can’t think of anything else but them. All of this is wrapped up in a romantic pile of impatience. And if one night can give you all these feelings, what’s the point of devoting the rest of your life to keep the romance alive in a long-term relationship?

But can we compare one single night of passion to a lifetime of love?

And as most of the things are temporary, is love one of them?

When it comes to relationships, there is no place for one night stands, no matter how deeply emotional they can be. Romantic relationships demand mutual wholesome growing and strong commitment to one another. Although a momentum deep affection has the power to end a long period of suffering, it almost never fulfills our lives. And if someone out there still believes in soulmates, they know what this is about. There is nothing like that ‘Sunday kind of love’.

“I want a Sunday kind of love.
A love to last past Saturday night.
And I’d like to know it’s more than love at first sight.”

– Etta James

So, is love meant to last only a night, or a lifetime?

Should it be ‘now or never‘ or should we thrive to make it ‘forever and a day‘?

In reality, nothing lasts forever. With that in mind, love is also temporary. However, this doesn’t mean we have to live our lives like there is no tomorrow and we shouldn’t spend time refining a long-term relationship.
Nowadays our love lives suffer from overflowing of romantic options. This pushes us into a loop of making choices. Sometimes quite poor ones. Perhaps, this could explain why a tremendous amount of people are dealing with sadness, frustration, and loneliness. Since making so many choices is extremely overwhelming, we become unable to establish a strong, deep, and healthy connection with someone. Some are protecting their hearts from another painful heartbreak, others are afraid of falling in love in the first place.

The flexibility that this massive choice of romantic options we have now, could be the reason why long-term relationships are losing their value these days. There are so many people out there, how can you be sure that this one is the right one? You can’t. And that’s why people are afraid to love. And maybe, that’s why many prefer a momentum, wild, and emotional romance, instead of committing to someone, who might not even be the one.

What would be the right thing to do?

Of course, the easiest thing to do would be to go with the flow and live for the moment. Life is quite simple when you don’t have to worry about the future, isn’t it? Why waste so much time and effort into something so risky and unpredictable like love?

On the other hand, you could spend your whole life searching for the love of your life and establishing a deep meaningful connection. Indeed, this one sounds way more difficult, but wouldn’t that be the most wonderful and wholesome thing ever? All you have to do is to accept the temporary nature of love and still aspire to find the one.

Often the hardest choices we have to make are the ones that predetermine our paths. To be honest, choosing to love forever is one of the most ambitious and daring choices you would ever make. But it would also be the greatest choice of them all. As they say, it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

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