Mom-to-be slammed for asking her husband to save her over the baby if there are complications during birth
A mother-to-be was under fire for asking her husband to choose her life instead of the baby’s in case anything goes wrong during childbirth.
Being aware of the risks that inevitably come with the act of giving birth, a mother-to-be was determined to make things a little easier for her husband. After developing gestational diabetes at the 32nd week of pregnancy, the woman was scared she might not survive giving birth. In her fear, she asked her partner to save her over the baby in case things get so complicated he needs to make that choice.
However, instead of empathy, the mother was met with criticism. So, questioning her own rightfulness and morals, she turned to the Reddit community, asking: “AITA For telling my husband that if he had to choose between my self and my daughter during birth to choose me?”
The woman explains:
“I had a very good pregnancy but develop gestational diabetes at 32 weeks… So before going into the hospital I talked with my husband that if something were to happened and he needed to choose between myself and our baby to please choose me. He got quiet but said that he agreed.”
Thankfully, both the mother and the baby were fine. But her friends were “disgusted” when she told them about her wish.
But when the mom decided to discuss her decision with friends, they slammed her, saying she needed to rethink her whole mentality.
“I said that I straight told my husband again that I’m scared that something may happen to me during the birth and in the hopes of giving my daughter a sibling I could leave her without a mother. That the original agreement stands that he needs to choose me if that’s the case.
My friends were disgusted with my thinking and said that I was an a**hole to my husband in asking him to basically kill his baby (those were the exact words).”
The woman continues:
“My thinking was, if something happened to us (me and baby) and my husband had to choose, either way, his decision will be judge by my family. What if I died and he had to tell my parents sorry but I choose the baby.”
The post went viral, sparking a debate over who should be saved first – the mother or the baby.
Most Redditors were supportive of the mother. One user said:
“NTA[Not the a**hole] – it’s your f*cking life. You can make another baby, there can’t be another you. Also, if your Husband agreed, it’s none of their business.”
Another commented:
“I strongly advocate for this. You should not prioritise a baby over keeping the mother alive. Women are not just incubators but people in our own right. Any doctor or midwife who believes the mother’s life is secondary is a misogynist.”
A third wrote:
“NTA! I hate the modern parenting culture where mothers are expected to always martyr themselves, where her health and her needs are totally ignored in favor of the baby. It’s dehumanizing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to live.”
Do you think the mother was right to ask her husband to save her over the baby? Let us know in the comment section!
