“We trust each other, and that’s the only way to make any relationship work.” A married couple invites a friend to join in and form a throuple.
Katy and Justin Rupple have been married for eight years now. But last year, the real estate associate and the actor decided to shake things up. With Katy’s bisexuality on the table, they invited Justin’s female best friend, Clarie Thornhill, to become a part of their romantic life.
Luckily, Clarie perfectly fitted in and the three of them formed a polyamorous relationship. As Daily Mail reveals, they now live together in Los Angeles.
Justin and Clarie were good friends from college. Not long after, the actor met Katy, and he instantly fell in love. They got married in 2013, with Clarie still being in their life as Justin’s friend.
But Katy was never secretive about the sexual attraction she felt for her husband’s best friend.
“Shortly after they wed, they had an open discussion about what they wanted in their partnership. The topic of Katy’s sexuality led them to talk about me — the friend she was attracted to on Justin’s social media posts. After years of discussions, they finally decided to reach out to me.
Katy and Justin wanted to make sure their feelings didn’t ruin the friendship they had with me, especially if the attraction wasn’t mutual.”
“At first, it was a surprise, as I had never been approached like this before. Despite this, the surprise was welcomed as I had always had feelings for both men and women.
I never knew it was a possibility, but the friendship Justin and I had and my attraction to them both, made it exciting — we were instantly in love.”
At first, Katy, Justin, and Clarie had a long-distance relationship.
While Katy and her husband were living in LA, their third romantic partner was still in Seattle. But the love they had for one another was stronger, so after two years, they all moved in together in the City of Angels.
“We are never alone unless we want to be and we discuss decisions as a unit. Sometimes, two of us share a hobby and one of us doesn’t — but this allows everyone to enjoy their own activities with someone who loves it like they do.”
And the best thing about this throuple is that they trust each other enough to be able to openly discuss ideas, decisions, issues, and concerns. Thornhill added:
“If someone is experiencing hardship, there’s always a support team and we want people to see that our relationship works for who we are and we’re not pushing for others to be like us, but rather see that we aren’t different.
As humans, we’re capable of loving multiple people completely without diminishing the love we have for any one individual and we’re extremely lucky to have found each other. We are proud of our partnership and want others to know that you don’t have to feel shame for simply loving people.”
The throuple’s friends and families have been incredibly supportive of their relationship.
What’s more, they have an impressive online fanbase that is mad about their romantic life and admires them for embracing their sexuality. Clarie commented:
“We are very blessed to have a supportive family unit as when they see us together, they say it just makes sense.
Many people who know me online say, ‘ Oh yeah, this makes sense for you,’ but the majority of comments are positive and supportive. Usually, the ones who aren’t so nice are from anonymous pages, meaning they just want to spew anger which is to be expected with anything on the web.”
She went on:
“It’s easy to let negativity roll off our backs because we are in love and this creates quite the protective barrier from strangers online. There are the occasional head turns and cat call comments from men, but you can’t control other people or how they feel and we enjoy each other’s company so much that we won’t let it bother us.”
And here is why Katy, Justin, and Clarie’s relationship as a throuple works so well:
“We trust each other, and that’s the only way to make any relationship work — when you feel truly accepted by your partner(s), simple feelings like attraction and fear of abandonment aren’t that scary.”
Clarie also has a valuable piece of advice for those ashamed of who they are and whom they love:
“If you feel shame about who you are or who you love, just know that there are people out there just like you and you’re not alone. Love is the act of putting someone’s well-being ahead of yours, so never let someone else’s self-doubt and fear dictate who you want to be — follow your heart and be honest with yourself.”