“People inspire you, or they drain you – pick them wisely.”
– Hans F. Hansen
Do you suspect that you might not be social because you just don’t like people?
If you’re getting headaches after spending time around too many people and if you often find yourself getting anxious when you get invited to a social gathering – do not worry.
There’s nothing wrong with you – you are just a natural introvert.
For introverts, socializing is always something they find uncomfortable doing. They try to steer away from it at all costs. And when they find themselves having to do it, the one thing that freaks them out the most is having to do small talk with people who they’ll never cross paths with again.
Introverts get uncomfortable when they spend too much time around people, especially those they’ve never met.
The thought of going through an awkward conversation makes them incredibly nervous. What will they think of them? Will they be liked, or will they be judged?
And it is mostly the small talk they dread – not the people.
But the truth is, we all have to make small talk from time to time, and while there are some people who don’t have a problem with it, there are others who cannot stand it.
In the world of the introvert, there is a big difference between conversation and small talk.
And while they don’t like talking about trivial things, they love engaging in deep and meaningful conversations.
However, socializing is an integral part of life that we cannot separate from. We cannot expect to stay home and avoid meeting people and lead a healthy life in the process. Human beings need each other.
Hence, it is of vital importance for introverts to find a balance. They need to understand that sometimes there will be instances when their stress levels will rise and it would then simply be best to stay in the comfort of their home. But, other times, they need to do their best to fight off their fears and step out of their comfort zone to meet new people.
And extroverted people might not understand what socializing means for introverts.
For introverts, socializing is much more than simply passing the time.
They wouldn’t be up for spending their free time with their friends just ‘chilling’. They would rather enjoy their own company than being bored and uncomfortable.
Because when they’re on their own they can never get bored. They always find something meaningful to do in their time of solitude.
Although this may sound crazy to extroverts, introverted people will immediately click with what we’re talking about.
Socializing doesn’t come easy to introverts as they find it mentally taxing having to engage in meaningless small talk.
This is why introverts shouldn’t worry too much about what others think of them.
If you don’t feel comfortable mingling at parties, don’t feel bad about staying in. And, if small talk repulses you – don’t indulge in it.
There are many people out there who, just like you, love having deep and meaningful conversations on topics such as psychology, the cosmos, and the meaning of life. Those people are your people. You are simply not made for shallow socializing.
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