Your life is a mess. You cannot remember the last time you felt happy.
Everything around you seems to be going against you…
But you stay stuck in the same place for years, not willing to change a single thing. So, who’s to blame for the awfully unpleasant situation you are finding yourself in right now?
Whether you like it or not, it’s all your fault. Accepting that hard truth is the first step towards changing your life and starting to live it the way you want to.
If you’re still trying to blame your melancholy on someone else, remember this:
Еverything that happens to you is a result of your own choices.
It’s not your grumpy boss, it’s not the weather, it’s not the economy, it’s you. No one else is responsible for the decisions you make. But instead of letting this bring you down, it should motivate you. Being the one responsible for your own choices means you hold the keys to your happiness. It means you are the only one who gets to choose how you are going to live your life.
Truthfully, the only thing that’s stopping you is the fear of change. Even if you’re telling yourself it’s not the right time, or the circumstances are not quite suitable, none of that is true. The truth is, you’re afraid of moving on. You’re afraid of letting go of the things and people that hold you down. You’re afraid to take a leap of faith to the unknown.
What you need to realize is that being afraid is completely normal. Leaving everything behind isn’t something that happens overnight. Starting fresh takes tremendous amounts of time, energy, and patience. But once you face your fears and understand the true power of change, you will regret waiting so long for making this vital step.
It’s actually pretty simple. If you’re not happy where you are in life – move. If you hate your job – quit.
And if you’re sick of being surrounded by toxic people – walk away. Undoubtedly, all of this is much easier said than done. However, if you take your time to process it, you will realize that it’s also not as difficult as you probably believe it is.
Choosing to leave behind the people and things whose influence is destroying your mental health isn’t selfish or mean, it’s quite necessary.
There is no way someone could be happy if they’re constantly surrounded by negativity, indifference, and neglect.
That’s exactly why you must take that crucial step towards changing your life, no matter how terrifying it may seem.
A wise man named George Addair once said:
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
These words should serve as a powerful motivation for you to at least consider changing your perspective towards life.
Try to recall the most amazing things that have happened to you in the past. If these things share something in common, it’s most probably the fact that you chose to get out of your comfort zone for a while and allowed yourself to experience something new and exciting. Because as much as you don’t want to admit it, all the great things in life happen outside of your bubble.
So instead of fearing change, you should embrace it.
And it all starts within yourself. Realizing you need that change would be a great first step of your journey.
In the end, it all comes down to finding happiness. If you’re not happy with the people around you, with the job you’ve been doing for ages, or with the place you live in, don’t blame it on the weather. Don’t blame it on yourself either. You may be responsible for the messy situation you’re stuck in now, but you’re also in charge of your own happiness. Let that sink in.
