20 years ago the turbulent so-called Mommy Wars were storming the country.
Women from all around who had been sold a basket of goods by their feminist mom’s and teachers were either lamenting the futility of being able to happily work full-time jobs while maintaining a healthy marriage, or they were defending their choice to work 24/7 by insisting kids do just fine in the hands of a substitute carer such as a babysitter.
Ever since, the ideas about how women can lead a happy life – in terms of jobs, family, love and sexual satisfaction – have only aided in women’s misery.
And in addition to being much less happy than their mothers and grandmothers ever were, they are much more stressed out than most men.
None of the above-mentioned things has done anything to help women and men find the right path to each other. Dating in the U.S. is in steady decline, and marriage rates have never been lower. While there are many reasons for this depressing turn of events, at the center of it are the lies feminists have been spouting for years. And here are the four most damaging lies, starting with the worst one:
1. A career is more fulfilling than family life
The most toxic lie that feminists have ever told, is the idea that financial success is more fulfilling than having a family. It is nearly impossible to show the depth of this lie, because it too has its roots in the 1960s, this time with the aid of Betty Friedan, who said that being a mother and wife is similar to being in a “comfortable concentration camp.” Ever since, American females have been bombarded with a consitent diet of images and words that drive Friedan’s point home.
People are like a pack of animals: we need to feel included in a group in order to feel good about who we are. Some do alright standing apart from the rest, but most cannot cope with this. Hence, cultural messages are relevant. Women often end up shocked when they find that slaving away isn’t even close to being what they thought it would be. Since being a mom is not viewed as something a woman would want to do any longer, let alone should do, they are surprised to see how soul-crushing it is to leave their toddlers and go back to work. They are surprised to discover that a career isn’t even nearly as meaningful and satisfying as they were lured to believe.
A similar sense of unease is felt by lonely women who cannot find a partner with whom to settle down. As it turns out, careers are not fulfilling at all, if you end up alone in bed most nights.
Way too many women set up their lives around work and eventually wish they had not. Take for instance Sex and the City writer Candace Bushnell…
2. Women do not need men
It all began with a supposedly funny phrase Gloria Seinem used in the midst of the 1960s feminist movement: “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” It is still being recycled in different forms till this day, whether it is Jennifer Aniston talking about how women “don’t have to fiddle with a man to have that child” or Emma Watson talking about “self-parenting.” And eventually, as women started to make their own cash and take advantage of the invention of the birth control pill, they came to believe that women do not need men.
As it turns out, they were wrong. Biologically, women and men are wired to depend on each other – regardless of how much times have changed. Most women still desire to be mothers, and when they do they become vulnerable. Even nowadays, females are instinctively aware that they will sooner or later need a man if they wish to have a family and if they would like to have the choice of being home at all, if only for a period of time.
Furthermore, studies have shown that what is most important to women – even to the economically independent – is knowing they have a man they can count on. It is the feeling of being safe and in good hands – sure, even in the financial sense – that matters most. That is what people refer to as hypergamy, and it is still alive and kicking to this day.
3. Women and men are the same, or gender is just a social construct
The exact historical moment when the relationship between men and women fell on its face is when women started having sex like men – casually and with no strings attached – under the pretense that women are the same as men and are hence just as able to have casual sex.
Think about this preposterous Bustle piece asserting, based on a dubious study, that males and females are now equally likely to pursue a one night stand if approached the right way. From colleges to bathrooms, many females today have been taught to pursue sex the same way their male counterparts do: no commitment needed. And they are getting severely burned.
If there is anything that can be considered as obvious proof for this, it is the so-called campus rape crisis and the MeToo overkill. If there was any truth to the claim that women are “just like men” in their ability to separate sex and emotion, why would campus and office hookups become a matter for the courts rather than a welcome ride?
It isn’t merely our sexuality that contrasts the natures of men and women. Parenting is a great example. As soon as a baby is born, a woman’s nurturing gene is almost always activated. Caring for her newborn in an emotional way is her first instinct, hence going back to work so early is heartbreaking for mothers.
The reaction of a father is different: the first thought that rushes through his mind is “How will I support my family financially?” It is, of course not his only contribution, but it comes first on the list.
In a nutshell, the fact that both sexes are capable of performing identical tasks does not mean they want to do them with equal enthusiasm. Desire matters immensely.
4. The biological clock is not real
The biological clock may be seen as inconvenient in a political way, but that does not invalidate its existence. The perfect age for a woman to step into pregnancy is 25, noted Gillian Lockwood, medical director at the Midland Fertility Clinic in the United Kingdom, recently:
“The bleak reality is that the chance of IVF working with your own eggs once you are 40 is absolutely abysmal…In what other branch of medicine would we let, yet alone encourage, patients to pay for an elective operation with a less than five percent chance of working?”
For this reason, we can say that men can postpone marriage longer than women. But women aren’t being told this truth. Instead, society pretends they can map out work at the heart of their lives, as men do, as though they will not come to a stage in which their ability to have children will inescapably clash with their career.
Article writers are currently busy trying to shake up the biological reality that it is easier for women to have babies in their twenties and early thirties.
In other words, women are being lied to, in order for certain people to advance their political agenda. And by doing so, feminists get their way – for women to reject the desire to have a family and to instead slave away in the market place – but all women get is disappointment in the long run.
In reality, after numerous years of following the cultural system point by point, women are often no longer able to find husbands. Or they cannot have children. Or if they do marry and have children, they are not able to spend the necessary time with them because they structured their life in an entirely different direction.
Women have been deceived for decades, and that is why they are getting increasingly unhappy. However, there is a solution. Turn your priorities around – put love and family, rather than work at the center – and you will win in the game that is life. Many have done so already, and it has made all the difference.
If you would like to find out more about the lies of feminists, see Christina Hoff Sommers’ video below.
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