“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to,” wrote Susan Cain, a modern expert on introversion. “Love is essential,” she explained, “gregariousness is optional.”
Often, in our past-paced and out-loud society, an introvert’s value can become hidden.
They are worth the time and effort it may take to seek them out. Introverts, as a group, tend to be thoughtful, fascinating, and deeply kind. They will never leave you bored.
For many reasons, introverts make wonderful life partners.
Here are eight reasons to fall for one:
1. They understand the power of loving oneself.
Because introverts enjoy spending time alone, they come to know themselves very intimately. This gives them the chance to love themselves, which allows them to more deeply and thoroughly love others. They’ll encourage you to do the same.
Because introverts spend so much time in their own minds, they are able to develop a unique worldview. They are inclined to express this worldview through art, music, or literature. Creative expression comes naturally to an introvert, who will likely prefer it to conversation. Prepare to be wowed by your partner’s creativity.
3. They are self-sufficient.
An introvert does not need a partner. They are with you because they want to be. If you need a few days for yourself, they will not complain. They won’t label you selfish or cold. They will appreciate your independence, and will love you even more for it.
4. They are loyal.
As Adam S. McHugh explained, “Introverts treasure the close relationships they have stretched so much to make.” An introvert won’t flirt with your friends. They won’t play games to make you jealous. They are unlikely to cheat on you. Because they are selective in their relationships, they value and respect their partner deeply.
5. They are good listeners.
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply,” observed Stephen R. Covey. Introverts are gifted listeners. They will give you their full attention. Their replies will be insightful and meaningful. Soon, you may feel that your partner knows you better than you know yourself.
6. They have a great capacity for empathy.
An introvert’s attention is directed to the inner workings of the mind. They tap into this territory much more effectively than most. For this reason, they are able to pick up on the emotions of others and feel them deeply. They are more inclined to react with understanding than with judgement.
In our extroverted society, introversion itself becomes an act of rebellion. Introverts know who they are, and they will fight for it. This extends to their feelings about world issues, politics, religion, and humanity itself. An introvert will not change who they are to please others.
8. They carry a sense of mystery.
In a relationship with an introvert, you may always feel as if they know you better than you know them. They tend to keep parts of themselves hidden. It takes great courage for an introvert to be emotionally vulnerable. This sense of mystery is undeniably alluring.
“I believe that introversion is my greatest strength. I have such a strong inner life that I’m never bored and only occasionally lonely. No matter what mayhem is happening around me, I know I can always turn inward.” Susan Cain knows the value of her solitary nature. Introverts are rebellious, authentic, and deeply in tune with the universe. In our world, these qualities are rare. Treasure them.