Empaths and narcissists are like two magnets, constantly searching for one another. It almost feels like they ‘need’ each other to function (well, at least that is true for the narcissist). However, there isn’t just one type of narcissist out there.
Oh, no. There are a couple you should be wary of, as they do possess varying characteristics.
Thus, the two main types narcissists one should be conscious of are:
Vulnerable Narcissists (VN’s)
This type exhibits strong abandonment and rejection issues. They meticulously utilize the facade of ‘vulnerability’ in order to make it possible for them to turn into something/someone they idolize or worship. Needless to say, the inability to show empathy, as well as deep affection is constant with them. They also possess the tendency to be highly skilled and masterful in the manipulation tactic of playing mind games.
That is their ultimate weapon: to make you believe something that is very far from the truth.
Invulnerable Narcissists (IN’s)
This so-called ‘breed’ of narcissists fits the mainstream stereotype: the one that experiences an extreme case of the superiority complex. They most often are portrayed as immensely egocentric and deceivingly ‘self-confident’, as well as only interested in their own interest and gain. The key difference between the two main types is that the second one (the IN’s) do not put on a pedestal or idolize anyone but themselves.
Both personality types (vulnerable narcissists and invulnerable narcissists) can be broken down into 4 (unofficial) subtypes which could possess overlapping characteristics.
1. The Amorous Narcissist
Amorous narcissists put the focus of their significance and superiority on how many sexual partners they have seduced in their lifetime. Therefore, it is logical to state that they frequently use their charismatic nature and charm in order to flatter the people of their desire. However, they do quickly become bored once they have gotten what they needed and do not waste any time in ‘disposing of’ those deemed ‘useless’. They are ‘heart-breakers‘, as they appear highly attractive and amicable, however, they are only out to satisfy their own needs.
2. The Compensatory Narcissist
In order to conceal and ‘compensate’ for their past (mostly childhood) traumas, they follow the pattern of creating a certain type of grandiose fantasy about their life and achievements. This ‘category’ of narcissists often seeks out unstable, emotionally vulnerable people as their ‘victims’ or ‘audience’. Consequently, this is due to the fact that they would participate in that charade of theirs. However, quite oppositely to what they might make you believe, they are very easily defeated by any sort of criticism. Manipulation and emotional abuse is, therefore, the tactic used primarily by them in order to maintain their self-image spotless and impressive (in their eyes, predominantly).
3. The Elitist Narcissist
Narcissists of this nature fight at any cost to be above others, be it professionally or personally. Dominance is in their blood, as they are convinced of their own superiority. Therefore, their achievements, background, status, or just merely their God-given prerogative shape them to be deserving of special treatment in their opinion. Moreover, they do possess a feeling of privilege which follows them in every aspect of their life. Elitist narcissists are because of this very masterful and accomplished in the area of self-promotion and bragging. They mercilessly pursue their path of being the very best and superior to all at any given time.
4. The Malignant Narcissist
This pattern is often seen as overlapping with Antisocial Personality Disorder.
Malignant narcissists often disregard morality as a concept and do not experience remorse whatsoever. They are by far best described as arrogant, having an inflated sense of self-worth and importance. Moreover, they delight themselves and take pride in exercising ‘intellectual dominance‘. Due to their so-called ‘God-complex‘, they are uninterested (to say the least) in differentiating between the concepts of right and wrong, as they possess an over the top lack of compassion.
In conclusion, these four subcategories of narcissistic tendencies are important to be aware of, especially when dealing with someone of this sort in your personal life.
Although an overlapping of characteristics is possible, the ability to differentiate between them can help you spot some tendencies in a quicker manner.
Please sound off in the comments below and let us know if you knew any of the different subtypes of narcissistic behavior.