A father was extremely dissatisfied with his daughter’s reaction to some “stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”
As a consequence, he thought his daughter needed to be taught some manners. But some people online thought he went too far with his punishment…
One person said
“Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully.”
Regarding the incident, the father said the following:
“My ex-wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter together of which I have full custody (she has moved on with her new family)… My daughter recently got in trouble at school for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment. Including pulling off her wig.”
“Apparently there is some pre-existing bad blood between the two of them, but I don’t think that even begins to excuse her behavior,” he wrote in a post that was later deleted.
The man also said that his child was seeing the other girl’s ex-boyfriend, and this caused things to get heated between the two.
According to CafeMom, the father wrote:
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t. That’s what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”
He also shared that he gave his child two choices, with the first being:
“I will throwaway every single piece of electronics she owns and never buy her another again (this was just to coerce her into choosing option 2).”
The second option was :
“She will go to the hairdresser and get a cue ball haircut. As in, a completely shaved head, as bald as the hairdresser can do.”
The girl chose option 2, which meant she was forced to go to school bald-headed and was not permitted to wear a wig.
“Everyone thinks I went way overboard. Her mother went ballistic at me saying it will make her the target of bullying (kind of the point, teach her some compassion),” the father said.
Even though the parent thought of his method as a fitting punishment for his daughter’s lack of empathy, many people on the web saw things differently.
One person wrote the following:
“Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.'”
Another commented:
“There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
One person, however, agreed with the father and said:
“I support your decision completely. You’re her parent so you have every right to do this, it’s not abusive, it’s real life. If she’s comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels.”
Another commented:
“This is an appropriate punishment for that behavior that will hopefully result in one child being compassionate and thinking empathetically before they start bullying people.”
A third wrote:
“She will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson.”
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