It doesn’t matter whether it’s your friend or family member, if they are toxic, they are toxic.
There is not one good enough reason as to why you should keep a toxic family member in your life, your mental and physical well being should be more important than the toxic relationship you have with them.
I know it seems wrong because they’re family and ‘blood is thicker than water’ but lets set the record straight here, it doesn’t matter who it is or what relation you have to someone, if they don’t provide a positive presence in your life, cut them out! It’s that simple. Life is too short to take bullshit from anyone.
However, it’s important to ask yourself if they really are toxic.
Family is an important part of ones life and journey as the same blood that runs through you runs through them.
So, here are 5 things to consider before cutting a relative out of your life:
1. Are they judgemental?
Constructive criticism is healthy, especially from a loved one, however, constant belittling or judgement from a loved one is not. When someone constantly judges or belittles you, it’s your self-esteem that takes a knock which in turn can affect you in the long run.
2. Do they love gossip and drama?
These people are the ones you want to distant yourself from immediately, not just if they’re a family member. Drama lovers get high of talking about other peoples misfortunes in hopes that it will make them feel better. One can also not trust these kind of people because you will never know if what you told them will reach the ears of other family members or even friends.
Gas lighting is a term that is used for when someone denies that they have done wrong or said xyz (even though you know they did) and in turn makes you think or look crazy. Gaslighting is not healthy just shows that persons inability to take responsibility for their actions or words.
4. Do the only ever talk to you when they need something?
This is a perfect example of being a convenience to someone, which is not something you want to be, trust me. This means that you will be left in the dark, or on the shelf until they need you to do something for them or provide something for them. Relationships that only consist of convenience can lead to feelings of irritation and anger with that person.
5. Are they there for you when you need emotional support or do they tell you to ‘man’ up?
Family members are supposed to show emotional support. If they are constantly telling you that you are being irrational and sensitive then they clearly don’t care about your emotional well being. This can oftenlead o depression and resentment.
If your any of your family members possess one of these toxic traits it will be in your best interest to cut them from your life, or for you to limit your interaction with them.
We all deserve to be around people who uplift and bring out the best in us.