The phrase “I am fine” is the biggest lie we tell.
We are almost automatically using it as an answer whenever someone asks us if we are okay. But are we, really?
The main thing you need to understand is that it’s okay to express your feelings. In fact, you must if you want to be at peace. Perhaps you are the strong one, the one who is always willing to help, the one who never puts away the smile of his face. You are used to putting a mask on your face just to cover up your emotions. But admit it, this is overwhelming and mentally exhausting.
Sometimes it seems much easier to just say that you are fine, instead of telling the truth.
However, this behavioral pattern develops emotional fatigue. The negative feelings you’re saving for yourself are slowly building up. Eventually, you start feeling anxious and stressed under the weight of your own problems.
Can you tell how many times you said “I am fine” when you actually weren’t?
And how many times did that make you feel better? If you think of the bigger picture here, you will see that it would be way more relieving to just share your real thoughts and feelings. Of course, this doesn’t mean to say every little thing that’s on your mind but whenever you are feeling stressed over something it’s better to share it with a friend or a colleague. Someone who will try to understand you and be there for you.
You can never be truly happy if you are always hiding behind the emotional walls you built. It is perfectly fine not to be fine. Unfortunately, no one will be able to help you get over your troubles if you are not letting them. All you have to do is to learn how to express your emotions. If you do that, you will no longer have to lie to others and yourself about how you truly feel.
We are all human beings. Some more complex than others, but we all have feelings. We all have bad days and times when we don’t even want to get out of bed. Life can be extremely hard sometimes but that doesn’t mean we are going to fix it by pretending everything is fine. You need to know that having gloomy days and pessimistic thoughts isn’t making you less of a person.
As a matter of fact, it is much better to express your emotions and try to find solutions to your problems, rather than hiding behind masks. Hoping that the troubles will eventually disappear isn’t going to fix anything. Fake it til’ you make it is just another lie we tell ourselves.
Never let your fear of exposure stand in your way. There are people in your life that genuinely care about you. Let them know how you really feel. Ask them for help if you need it. Coping up with stress and depression on your own is almost impossible, so don’t do it to yourself. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings you usually try to hide. Once you open up about your emotions you will see how liberating it is to just be you.