Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Recovering from being cheated on is a difficult task for a couple of reasons – you have to mentally recover from the pain and understand why the cheating happened.
Begin by figuring out what went wrong in your relationship. Did you simply attract a cheating type? Did they promise loyalty but just couldn’t deliver? Did they say they’ve cheated before? Was it poor communication or an intimacy problem?
Now that you have pondered on the issue for some time, you still need to find ways to recover and move on with your life.
Here’s how you can do so:
1. Do not dwell on the past
Do not waste precious time reliving it in your mind and comparing yourself to your cheating partner’s lover. This is highly damaging and can set you back in numerous ways.
2. Have a good cry
Give yourself some time to cry it out. Let’s say for one week you can stay in bed and cry and do whatever you feel like doing. After that, return to a serious life. You don’t want to stay in a state of depression for too long.
3. Try to understand what kind of cheater your partner was
Were they a serial cheater, was it just a one-time thing, or were they sexually repressed? Once you know, learn the signs so you can avoid repeating this situation. And should you see any red flags next time, avoid getting involved with such a person.
4. Don’t turn your friends into emotional dumpsters
Do not tire your friends out. Choose one close friend who will be by your side and talk about the issue. Ask them for permission before laying it all out on them. It can be emotionally exhausting so keep that in mind because your friend is doing you a solid favor.
5. Don’t go crazy changing your looks
Don’t change your hairstyle or color, or get a wild tattoo or any kind of plastic surgery. Doing this won’t get you anywhere. Stay natural. Looking your best is great and can work wonders… as long as it is done in a natural way.
6. Seek professional help if needed
A good therapist can truly point you in the right direction. And this is strongly recommended should you struggle with low self-esteem or any insecurities.
7. Hit the gym
Exercise can do wonders against depression. You must do whatever you possibly can to get yourself out of this state. Eat well, swim, join an exercise club. Energize yourself and keep going!
8. You are still a great person
Make a list of all the qualities you take pride in. At such low points in life, you have to remind yourself of your worth and how you can use it to help make the world a better place.
We need you!
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