One in five Americans choose online dating over traditional dating, and that number is growing with every year that passes. But why?
Of course it’s easy to say millennials will choose the digital option over the old fashioned way if given a chance, but the truth behind why online dating is trumping its tried and true counterpart is deeper than that.
Let’s take a look at what selling points are making it pull ahead.
1. You Have Dozens of Dates at Your Fingertips – Constantly
There are few things as exciting and ego-boosting as flirting with a special someone. However, it takes a lot of effort to get dolled up and attend a date. If you don’t have the work schedule to allow it, that means blocking off your weekends and leaving yourself bored Monday through Friday. In that same vein, it also means your weekends never have time for friends or hobbies.
With online dating, you have an entire group of charming singles eager to flirt with you, and thanks to the text feature, it’s a small time commitment that allows you to enjoy it 24/7. Want to chat with a cutie during your break? It’s only a few keystrokes away. Want an enticing date for the weekend? No need to pull out the $100 lipstick; you can have a digital date, and if it turns out to be a dud, simply jump to the next feed for different date.
2. It’s A Lot Easier Than Manually Sifting Through Creeps
Blind dates recommended by friends can be messy. Flirting with your cute co-workers can lead to issues with your job. Perusing the club is more dangerous than it is effective, and the odds of running into your soul mate on the street? Only happens on Lifetime.
Rather than throwing your love life on the roulette wheel, online dating lets singles zero in on their ideal match unbelievably faster than manual efforts, thanks to matching algorithms which pair people off their interests, goals, and physical appearances. To make it better? Even though online dating has a reputation, it actually cuts down on the amount of creeps you’ll encounter, since sites ban users like this and allow you to report them. Real life has no such feature.
3. Can You Say “Privacy?”
Our parents always warned us of strangers on the internet, but plot twist – the internet is actually safer than real life. If you go on a date with someone who turns out to be bad news, or just isn’t right for you, they now know what you look like and generally what area of the city you live in. The odds of them spotting you on the street is higher, and the chances of them knowing a friend of a friend? Also possible.
However, online, your picture only shows what you want it to – not your every angle, not in different lightings, not your body type or the way you typically style your hair. While dating sites aren’t always private, you can benefit from the chance to vet your date and get to know them before meeting face to face. If they give you bad vibes in the chat room, there’s no worry of them getting physical or remembering your face; you can just close the tab, ignore them, or even block them.
4. No Borders Between You and Great Connections
While most dating sites allow you to limit your match search to certain areas, and some are exclusive to specific cities, many allow you to broaden your search internationally or even globally. Let’s do the math. With seven billion people on this planet, and only one you, what are the odds of your one-and-only out of the entire crop living in your city? Even within 80 miles of you?
While traditional dating leaves you to pick from the nearest candidates, which makes many settle and end up in poor relationships they later regret, online dating takes away borders. If your soul mate lives across the planet, then you can still be connected with them based on what matters; your interests, your type, and your psychology, all thanks to a matching algorithm that knows what to look for.
5. It Lets You Ease Into the Idea
If you’ve been out of the dating game for some time, are starting out late, or just haven’t had the time in recent months thanks to school, work, or family responsibilities, it’s a big step to begin dating. You never know when those responsibilities might fill your schedule and pull you back out of a relationship, so why commit? Do you really have the guts for meeting up with a total stranger face-to-face? Even if you have your eye on someone, you need a little practice before you embarrass yourself.
Online dating lets you take things at your own pace, in your own time. Want to flirt with someone over chat after work? It’s as simple and noncommittal as pulling up the app.
Are you too shy to charm a stranger face to face? Text and audio features make it easy to excel in flirting where you’re skilled, and jump offline if things become too much. Are you not sure if dating is really for you? No need to create a whole fiasco; you can enjoy a few online dates to see if the appeal is really there.
Traditional dating will always be a favorite for many, and online dating has earned itself a certain reputation.
However, where the regular style fails, digital matchmaking more than compensates, establishing itself as the best way to find love around the world.