The word “narcissist” gets thrown around far too often.
We use it to describe people who are selfish, insensitive, or overly pleased with themselves. Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that narcissism is an illness. Narcissists struggle with their disease as much as those around them do. They have little control over these feelings. Their brains are simply wired in a way that can make it difficult for them to connect with others.
Have you ever wondered if you are a narcissist?
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Do your friendships and relationships often fizzle out between three and six months?
Do you have a history of infidelity?
Does feeling emotional disrupt your sense of self-control? Does it make you feel uncomfortable?
Do you enjoy entertaining others? Are you good at it?
Do you often find yourself in leadership roles? Is this where you feel most comfortable?
Did your parents fail to give you enough attention?
Did your parents shower you with compliments and praise?
Do you tend to idealize people who are important to you?
Do you sometimes find yourself taking advantage of others?
Do you fall in and out of love easily?
When others are talking, are you listening? Or are you waiting for your turn to speak?
Do you feel uncomfortable when you’re not in control?
Are you more attractive than most people?
Are you more intelligent than most people?
Do you have a hard time being a good sport when you lose a game?
Do you often feel underappreciated?
As you can tell, not all of these qualities are inherently bad. Together, however, they can lead to some worrisome behavioral patterns. If you answered “yes” to most of the questions above, you may want to take this more comprehensive test to be sure.