Heartbreaks are never easy. Realizing that love is gone devastates you. It shatters your whole world and makes you feel more lost than ever. This goes for relationships, friendships, family bonds. You feel powerless every time someone you love betrays you or simply walks out of your life without a warning.
When the person you cared for the most leaves you on your own, you are forced to learn how to live a life without their love. And this is hands down one of the hardest challenges many of us go through.
But losing someone who doesn’t really care for you is not as detrimental as losing yourself.
The harsh truth that many of us refuse to accept is that people are replaceable. Friends, partners, family members you can truly count on – they constantly come and go. The only person you can never replace is yourself. That is why you need to nurture the relationship you have with yourself more than any other in your life.
Anyone who voluntarily chooses to remove themselves from the picture without considering your feelings is not worth your tears. It is completely normal to feel hurt and helpless after having your heart broken into pieces. However, you should know that your mental wellbeing is more valuable than anyone who doesn’t have the soul to appreciate you.
Don’t allow one heartbreak to utterly destroy you.
Don’t let a single person permanently damage your mental health. Giving someone the power to control your emotions and manipulate your feelings will only make you lose the most important connection in your life – the one you have with yourself. It will make you forget that you don’t need someone else’s approval to be whoever you want to be.
You don’t need validation to be able to embrace your true nature. No one else is entitled to determine the purpose of your own existence but you. Even when you are in a couple, you should never stop investing in your personal growth. At the end of the day, you have your own life to live, your own dreams to chase, your own goals to achieve. You get to make all the significant decisions that influence your path.
Simultaneously, you have to deal with your broken heart alone. While you may have a strong support system to help you out, you need to accept the harsh truth on your own. And you need to heal on your own. But remember that healing is not going to happen overnight. You will need a lot of patience and time to overcome the pain the one who walked away has caused you.
Stop allowing the demons of your past to affect your future.
Your happiness depends on you and no one else. This is exactly why you should stop letting your past determine your presence. You can learn from it, but you should never allow it to define who you are.
Instead of focusing on the pain, aim your attention at your healing. Take your time to reevaluate your priorities and acknowledge what truly matters. While doing so, you will have the opportunity to reconnect with your lost self and regain your inner strength.
As you do, your headspace will clear up, and you will remember who you truly are. Only then will you feel whole again. You will have the power to reach for the stars and make your dreams come true.
Stop waiting for someone else to take care of you and make you happy. Make yourself happy. But first, let go of the one who didn’t appreciate you and betrayed your trust. Let go of the pain they have caused you.
The most valuable relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. So make sure you don’t lose yourself while searching for someone else’s love.