Physical touch is one of the most important parts of our existence.
It allows us to dive into a passionate space, creating love and connection. And even though most people love to hear the words, “I love you”, touch is what truly pushes relationships into true intimacy.
While words are being processed in the thinking part of our brains, physical touch greatly affects our emotions.
Touching the body of your partner as well as them touching yours raises your endorphin levels, which, in turn, creates a deep sense of caring and pleasure. It also greatly calms the nerves.
In addition, physical touch communicates love.
It directly engages the senses for our physical and emotional pleasure and well-being and is an indispensable way to express what cannot be expressed with words. But sadly, we have become a society starved for touch.
A famous study done in the 1960s monitored the number of touches couples gave to each other at coffeehouses worldwide.
The results revealed shocking cultural differences for skin-on-skin contact. People in Puerto Rico won 1st prize with an amazing 180 times per hour, while Americans touched each other only two times every hour on average.
This sparked further studies to be done on the importance of touch, ultimately leading to the discovery that the amount of physical contact in our lives plays a vital role when it comes to our happiness and health.
Physical touch helps us form healthy and lasting relationships with others, to manage pain and stress, and even combat disease.
The lack of touch in one’s life may manifest in anxiety, depression, boredom, irritability, moodiness, and painful feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Many of us complain that our relationships are void of intimacy and this is mainly due to our touch barriers.
Human beings are born with deep hunger for physical contact and the mental development of infants greatly depends on it. Later, as adults, we develop an insatiable need to be cuddled, to hold hands, to be caressed and pleasured.
Unfortunately, most people don’t get to experience physical touch as much as they need.
Afraid of rejection and being seen as vulnerable or needy, they mask their craving for intimacy with work, hobbies, media, alcohol, and drugs.
If you want to bring more intimacy into your life, you must break the touch barriers.
The first thing you need to do if you want to develop a healthy, intimate relationship with your partner is to get to know your own body better. Exploring every part of it will help you get to know what you truly like and what makes you feel best. And when you get this down, you can talk to your partner with sincerity to create the intimacy you desire so strongly.
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