There is a general confusion about intimacy and sex.
While those words are used interchangeably, solely physical intimacy stops short of a meaningful and sustainable connection.
The more attention we put on the physical aspect of sex (how attractive we are, what we hear, what techniques we use), the further away we move from real intimacy.
Here we will look at 5 suggestions for radically awesome sex:
1. Make eye contact
While it may feel awkward at first, maintaining eye contact with your partner during intercourse not only aids you in connecting sexually with them but also helps to strengthen your bond.
Gazing in your partner’s eyes can make you feel vulnerable, which in turn evokes feelings of trust and love.
A study by Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird concluded that couples who maintained eye-contact with each other reported stronger feelings of general affection, passion, and love for their partners.
2. Try giving each other a sensual oil massage
Your partner will certainly not be complaining about you bestowing them with a sensual oil massage. Make sure to take turns so both of you can experience the soothing touch. All of these little touches will inevitably contribute to a more pleasurable and fulfilling sexual act.
3. Talk during sex
Try to talk naughty to one another while being as graphic or as reserved as you like. This is a powerful way to break your barriers and connect to each other through words and fantasies.
Alternatively, you can take a lighter approach and whisper sweet things to one another. Tell your partner what you like about them, tell them how much you love them, and how connected you feel to them.
Whatever approach you may choose, remember that sex talk is simply a way to keep your attention focused on each other during these sensual moments.
4. Talk more intimately about sex
A major obstacle to having good sex is not talking about it. Due to the vulnerability of the topic, many couples naturally keep it vague when talking about what they need.
Only a mere 9% of couples who avoid comfortably talking about sex with each other report having a satisfying sex life. But it shouldn’t be so. Talking about sex is a powerful path to deepening emotional connection and intimacy. It allows two people to express their desires and dislikes while working together towards a more meaningful sexual relationship.
5. Withhold the orgasm
Agree upfront upon not putting pressure on each other for reaching orgasm. By doing so, you provide each other with space to be fully present and find appreciation for each moment of pleasure and connection, without distraction. Try taking turns to bring each other close to climax and then back off. You will unquestionably notice the powerful bond you have created by holding each other on the brink of ecstasy.
Have you found these approaches to be useful? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.