According to Specialists Partners Who Truly Love Their Significant Other Always Do These 7 Things
Romantic relationships are complicated, fulfilling, complex, passionate, bitter, burdening or stimulating – any of these things or all of them together.
And sometimes we might get confused whether we are loved as much as we deserve or expect.
The answer isn’t always clear, but according to specialists, the partners who truly love their significant other are those who always do these 7 things:
1. Wouldn’t hold you back.
A partner who loves you would want only the best for you and would never stop you from achieving your goals. On the contrary, they are the ones to be your most reliable supporters and friends.
According to Shannon Thomas, therapist and author of Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse:
“A person who can authentically be excited about your success and goals in life is someone who won’t feel the need to hold you back. Most unhealthy relationships include some form of sabotaging of one partner. Dating someone who is happy with their life means they can be happy for you and alongside you.”
2. They try to fit into their partner’s life.
People who genuinely love and care for us try to get used as much as they can to our life and thinking. Specialists also support this thesis. Below is the opinion of Holly Daniels, a doctor who specializes in anxiety, co-dependency, and relationship addiction at Sober College
“A good sign that someone is right for you is if you can imagine that person fitting into other parts of your life. And not just living in a microcosm of the relationship. Ask yourself: Do they get along with the other people in my life? Do I get along with their friends and family? Do we have mutual interests and things that we enjoy doing together that can be a source of sustainability in a relationship? If the answer is yes, then you may be on the right track.”
3. They love you no matter what.
It’s tough to settle for a fair compromise with someone who has a complicated character. But if your partner is always ready to do all they could to make both of you happy, if they treat you with respect and show you their love no matter what, that means your relationship is on the right track. And that he or she might be the one.
Here is what Tracy Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support thinks:
“When you listen to your heart, you’ll feel whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you. That is known as ‘intuition‘. Your heart’s message to you. Almost everyone can think back and recall a time when they didn’t listen to it. When you feel good, feel that your partner is patient and true, treats you the same in public as he/she does at home, then you’re on the right path. Keep in mind that your intuition may send out warnings as well. It may come as a gut reaction. For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way. He/she is not accepting you for who you are. If that happens, run. That is a sign of a controlling person, and he/she will never treat you properly.”
4. They love you to the point of being as comfortable with criticizing you as they are with consoling you.
If your partner is honest with you and is not afraid to tell you when you are wrong or need to do something to improve a situation, that’s a good sign. What is more, if they treat you with compassion when you’re sad, crying, having a bad day, or just emotional you could be confident that they sincerely care for you.
On the other hand, if they are hardly ever comprehensive about your situation when you are feeling bad, this might be a red flag.
“If your partner criticises you for being sad or tells you that how you feel is silly that you’re over-reacting, that may be something to pay attention to. They could show signs of narcissism. Although later, you may think you were over-reacting, it may be just as important to know you were being listened to in the onset.”
— Catenya McHenry, journalist, and author of Married to a Narcissist
5. If your partner loves you, they have eyes only for you.
If they can’t think of a more beautiful partner to fall in love with and commit to than yourself, you’ve likely found someone special.
A person who loves strongly could go blind (from time to time) to others. They would be focused only on you. Especially, when it comes to men and their perception of a lady, visual impressions are crucial. So, if your loved one is not having their eyes on the pretty waitress at the restaurant or doesn’t care who else is there, they are probably genuinely in love.
Here is a trick suggested by Erika Ettin, dating coach and founder of dating site A Little Nudge:
“As simple as this may seem, I call it the ‘bar test’ to know if you’re with the right person. When you’re at a bar (or restaurant) with your partner, are you looking around to see who else is out there. Or who might see you two together? Or, are you perfectly content with your partner, and you want everyone there to notice you with him/her? If the latter is true, then he/she passes the test. But if it’s the former, it might be time to decide whether being in a relationship with this person is your best option.”
6. Your partner is happy when you’re happy.
According to Laura VanderDrift, associate professor of psychology at Syracuse University’s College of Arts and Sciences and director of the Close Relationships Lab at Syracuse University, this is one of the most important signs that you are with the right person:
“It certainly helps if you’re dating someone that you want to make happy. And who wants to make you happy in return. Couples who love each truly place the needs and wants of their partners on par with or above their own. They seem to handle a lifetime of compromising, juggling priorities. Such couples collaborate better than the ones who individually pursue their own best interests.”
7. They are both a romantic partner and a best friend.
The National Bureau of Economic Research conducted an important study. It confirmed that marriage could lead to higher levels of happiness (premarital happiness).
However, another finding amazed the specialists. It turned out that people who recognize their spouse to be their best friend are twice as happier in their marriages as the other partners.
“What immediately intrigued me about the results was to rethink marriage as a whole,” researcher John Helliwell said. “Maybe what is important is friendship, and to never forget that in the push and pull of daily life.”