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7 Vital Reasons Why You Should Take Vacations Even If You're Busy

Let’s be real, people are more worried about their work and livelihood now more than ever before. This may be because we’re frightened that unhappiness and poverty could come to us if we’re not 100% focused on our jobs. However, while trying to obsessively protect our precious time, we lose some vitally important things in […]

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7 Vital Reasons Why You Should Take Vacations Even If You're Busy

Let’s be real, people are more worried about their work and livelihood now more than ever before. This may be because we’re frightened that unhappiness and poverty could come to us if we’re not 100% focused on our jobs. However, while trying to obsessively protect our precious time, we lose some vitally important things in life.

We must work, but we also need some time off and experience a relaxing vacation too. Here’s why…

1. Health

Life is not everlasting. Don’t shorten it by avoiding vacations. Studies have revealed that people who don’t go on vacations have a 21% higher risk of dying from numerous causes. If you sit for many hours and have a poor diet, coupled with insufficient sleep and too much stress, hypertension is just around the corner. Think about vacations as a fun way to invest in your health.

2. Stress

Whether you’re having family issues or your system is overloaded with work pressure, taking a vacation will strongly reduce whatever stress you are under. Stress blocks you from seeing things with a clear eye. But when you do take a holiday you come to understand how to balance life and work and decrease the negativity of stress and any traces of burnout.

3. Focus

Chronic stress can hinder the part of the brain that is responsible for goal-directed activities and causes issues with memory. Constant work overload with no time off can make people feel distracted, blocked, and have problems with focusing. Surveys have shown that up to three-quarters of those who take regular vacations feel energized and more able to take on difficult tasks.

4. Creativity

Vacations give you the time to recharge your body and mind. People are wired to refresh and not go on working for too long without a break. And that is why many working people get their most precious ideas when they are out of the workplace.

5. You

YOU are the main source of creating wealth and wellness in your life. Think of your holidays as investing in yourself. A vacation is a chance to broaden your horizons by visiting new places, getting involved in new experiences and creating beautiful memories that sustain you. In addition, you meet wonderful and interesting people and create relationships that brighten your personal or professional life.

6. An improved sex life

Vacations boost your libido. It has been discovered that high cortisol levels associated with stress create a negative feedback loop in the mind and lower production of hormones such as testosterone, forcing you to lose your sex drive. People who take regular vacations are more relaxed, feel sexier, and have greater romance in their relationships which translates to better sex!

7. Family time

While busy with work you tend to sacrifice the health of your relationships, especially in your family. As your work takes the forefront you miss out on the most important moments with your family. You cannot sacrifice time and experiences with them when you don’t take time off. Vacations are the perfect opportunity for you to travel together and vitalize your relationships.

Do you believe in the crucial importance of taking vacations? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve enjoyed the read.

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The Main Causes of Depression

Depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the world. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Services Administration [SAMHSA], one in five Americans has a mental disorder, and 10-15% of the population is likely to experience clinical depression in their lifetime. Even though the exact causes of depression are not yet known, […]

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The Main Causes of Depression

Depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the world. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Services Administration [SAMHSA], one in five Americans has a mental disorder, and 10-15% of the population is likely to experience clinical depression in their lifetime.

Even though the exact causes of depression are not yet known, many factors are often link to its development. Many different factors can cause depression ranging from genetics to environmental.

The following are some of the things that may increase your chance of getting depression:

1. Brain chemistry imbalances

An imbalance in the neurotransmitters can cause depression.  Neurotransmitters are responsible for mood regulation. Neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine, and noradrenaline can affect a person’s mood.  Neurotransmitters are chemical substances that help the different parts of the brain to communicate with one another. When specific neurotransmitters are few, it may lead to symptoms of clinical depression.  But this explanation is still under further review as experts believe that it doesn’t give a complete picture of the complex factors that cause depression. When a person is depressed, the neurotransmitters that regulate mood seem to function abnormally. The signal may be disrupted or depleted.

Depression treatment medications tend to focus on altering the levels of specific chemicals in the brain. The treatments include serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors [SNRIs], selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors [SSRIs], tricyclic antidepressants [TCAs], and monoamine oxidase inhibitor [MAOIs]. Some people don’t find relief through these medications. Fortunately, there is an alternative depression treatment, such as Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), which is safe and effective as well.

2. Genetics

Certain personality traits or experiences can cause depression. However, research shows that genetics can partly increase the chances of developing depression. A family history of depression may increase the chances of depression. Depression is a complex trait, this means that there are genes that generate small effects separately, rather than a single gene that contributes to depression risk.

It’s worth mentioning that having a parent, grand-parent, or a close relative with depression does not mean that you will also have the same experience. Personal factors and other life circumstances are still likely to have a critical impact. Identifying genes that influence a person to certain types of depression is still under research.

3. Personality

In life, people have different personalities.  Some of these personalities can predispose you to higher risks of developing depression. Some of the personalities that have been linked to depression include:

  • People who have low self-esteem
  • People who worry a lot
  • People who are sensitive to personal criticism
  • People who are perfectionists
  • People who are shy and avoid social situations due to fear of their limitations
  • People who are easily rattled and with a low tolerance for frustration

You should not that having any of these personality styles doesn’t automatically mean that the person will develop depression. Personality style is just one of the contributing factors.

4. Serious illness

The stress and worry on how to cope with severe illness can make you develop depression, especially if you are dealing with a chronic disease. Chronic disease can make you stuck at home or in bed and not be able to do normal things and worry more about the condition. This can often lead to depression.

These are some of the medical conditions that can contribute to depression:

  • Cardiovascular diseases
  • Brain tumor
  • Degenerative neurological disorders
  • Epilepsy
  • Cancer
  • Endocrine disorders such as diabetes

5. Stress

Stress is part of human life. Almost everybody can be stressed or depressed by certain things in life. The majority of personal problems such as divorce, loss of a job, childbirth, death of a loved one, etc. can make one develop depression.

Scientists suspect high levels of the hormone cortisol, which is usually secreted during periods of stress, can affect the neurotransmitter serotonin and may lead to depression.

6. Grief and loss

Following the loss of a loved one, the grieving person may experience some symptoms of depression. Some of these symptoms may include insomnia, loss of appetite, loss of interest in activities, sudden weight loss, etc. If you handle the grief and loss correctly, these symptoms should diminish over time. But when they don’t reduce or get worse, they may lead to depression.

7. Substance use

Substances such as drugs or alcohol can contribute to depression. Some prescription drugs have also been linked to depression. Some of the drugs that have been linked with depression include stimulants, anticonvulsants, benzodiazepines, statins, and corticosteroids.

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Stressed to the max? A good night sleep can recharge your anxious brain https://iheartintelligence.com/stressed-to-the-max-good-night-sleep/ Tue, 12 Nov 2019 07:31:36 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=56249 The post Stressed to the max? A good night sleep can recharge your anxious brain appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Stressed to the max? A good night sleep can recharge your anxious brain

Have you forgotten what it’s like to have a normal sleep pattern? Well, you are not alone. Nowadays, stress disorders are more common than ever. Our brains have hundreds of tabs open, overthinking everything that could or have happened. Stressful situations often affect our sleeping cycle. A new research from the University of California, Berkley, […]

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Stressed to the max? A good night sleep can recharge your anxious brain

Have you forgotten what it’s like to have a normal sleep pattern? Well, you are not alone.

Nowadays, stress disorders are more common than ever.

Our brains have hundreds of tabs open, overthinking everything that could or have happened. Stressful situations often affect our sleeping cycle.

A new research from the University of California, Berkley, found that a sleepless night can cause up to a 30% rise in anxiety levels.

If we want to fight anxiety, we shouldn’t let that happen.

According to the researchers, the type of sleep which is most likely to calm and recharge a stressed brain is deep sleep. This non-rapid eye movement, or NREM, is a state in which neural vibrations become highly synchronized. Besides, in this slow-wave sleep, heart rates and blood pressure drop, which also relaxes our nervous system. Study lead author Eti Ben Simon shares with Science Daily:

“Our study strongly suggests that insufficient sleep amplifies levels of anxiety and, conversely, that deep sleep helps reduce such stress.”

Over 40 million Americans are diagnosed with anxiety, stress, depression, or similar mental disorder.

This study provides one of the strongest neural connections between sleep and anxiety disorders. In fact, they point out that sleep is a natural cure for stress-related complications. UC Berkley professor of neuroscience and psychology, Matthew Walker, claims:

“We have identified a new function of deep sleep, one that decreases anxiety overnight by reorganizing connections in the brain. Deep sleep seems to be a natural anxiolytic (anxiety inhibitor), so long as we get it each and every night.”

Researchers scanned the brains of 18 young adults in several experiments. Using MRI and polysomnography they examined the people’s reactions to emotionally stirring video clips. They did it once after a full night of deep sleep, and again after a sleepless night.

The results were clear.

After a night with poor or no sleep at all, the examinees’ brains were overactive and had much higher stress levels.

Walker explains:

“Without sleep, it’s almost as if the brain is too heavy on the emotional accelerator pedal, without enough brake.”

On the other hand, after a full night of deep sleep, anxiety levels were rather lowered. This proves that slow-wave NREM sleep is beneficial to our brains, serving as a natural recharger.

Not only the good night sleep reduces emotional and physiological reactivity, but it also calms our minds and prevents us from anxiety attacks.

To be completely certain of the results, scientists performed another study, this time with 30 participants. What is more, they handled online research with 280 people of all ages. The outcome was pretty much the same. Even subtle changes in their sleep affected their anxiety levels.

According to Ben Simon, poor quality sleep is common with people having stress-related issues.

“People with anxiety disorders routinely report having disturbed sleep, but rarely is sleep improvement considered as a clinical recommendation for lowering anxiety. Our study not only establishes a causal connection between sleep and anxiety, but it identifies the kind of deep NREM sleep we need to calm the overanxious brain.”

Stress shouldn’t be something we just put up with on a daily basis.

Try fighting it naturally by taking a good quality sleep tonight. You’ll surely feel more energized, refreshed, and relaxed in the morning.

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A new, innovative way to relax: cuddle with a cow for only $75 an hour https://iheartintelligence.com/relax-cuddle-with-cow/ Mon, 30 Sep 2019 07:30:46 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=53651 The post A new, innovative way to relax: cuddle with a cow for only $75 an hour appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

A new, innovative way to relax: cuddle with a cow for only $75 an hour

Had a stressful day, week, or month? Well, it looks like you can say ‘goodbye’ to stress with this new method of relaxing… Cuddle with a cow! To be fair, ‘cow cuddling’ is not a new concept in Europe, for example, as it has been around for a while. However, it is definitely an innovative […]

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A new, innovative way to relax: cuddle with a cow for only $75 an hour

Had a stressful day, week, or month? Well, it looks like you can say ‘goodbye’ to stress with this new method of relaxing…

Cuddle with a cow!

To be fair, ‘cow cuddling’ is not a new concept in Europe, for example, as it has been around for a while. However, it is definitely an innovative therapeutic technique offered to Americans by Mountain Horse Farm in upstate New York. For the price of $75 an hour, you can enjoy your time cuddling with the friendly and peaceful bovines, named Bonnie and Bella.

Image credit: Mountain Horse Farm

 

‘Cow cuddling’ is a form of animal-assisted therapy inclusive of brushing, petting or even having a word with your new, trustworthy psychology professionals.

It is said that the experience is quite similar to equine therapy, but with one great difference: while the horses tend to stand up, the cows lie down, allowing the humans to experience a closer bond with the lovely animal.

As a lot of people in recent times have turned to the help of animals for their mental health, there is no wonder that three-year-old Bella and two-year-old Bonnie are desired companions for many humans.

As mentioned above, this service is available to you in Mountain Horse Farm, which is a 33-acre bed-and-breakfast located in the Finger Lakes region of the state of New York. Suzanne Vullers, who is a Netherlands native, runs the farm with her husband. After learning about the health benefits of ‘cuddling with cows’, which was already a well-known relief therapy in countries like Switzerland and the Netherlands, she decided to bring along Bonnie and Bella to the US from her home country.

She was surprised the aforementioned practice was not really heard of in the US, so she took it upon herself to create the “horse and cow experience” on the farm.

Image credit: Mountain Horse Farm

In this regard, she told CNN:

“To be honest, we did not know that it was so unknown in the US. A lot of people are familiar with therapy dogs or cats … people don’t associate this with larger animals, like cows.”

However, Vullers does not believe ‘cow cuddling’ could be considered ‘therapy’ in the traditional sense, of course, but more of a practice people could definitely engage in to better their mental welfare. She also mentions her surprise to the fact that the ‘cow cuddling sessions’ have garnered such great interest.

She told TODAY that: “People laugh, people cry. There’s a variety of emotions going on there.” 

“It’s reconnecting with nature, connecting with animals, finding some quiet time for yourself, maybe process some thoughts or figure things out in your life.”

Apart from that, it is worth mentioning that cow capabilities in the art of soothing humans are definitely getting the spotlight nowadays. Apparently, cows are researched to be “far more sophisticated and sensitive than the simple grazers they are perceived to be,” as stated in a paper in the Animal Behavior and Cognition journal.

It turns out that the cows’ therapeutic nature lies within their slower heart rate, as well as their generally peaceful demeanor, which makes people slow down as well, enjoying the quiet time they have to connect with them.

So what does a session with Bonnie and Bella include?

First of all, it is important to mention that they are not tied down and have the free will to walk away from the individual approaching them if they wish to do so. Sessions are available once or twice a day, a few times a week and cost $75 per hour.

The owners do note that their farm is not a “petting zoo” and that people who wish to partake in the experience need to take into consideration both themselves and the animals.

Thus, every cuddling session is scheduled in advance so that it does not hinder the cow’s natural rhythm.

Here are a few more shots of people enjoying their lovely, peaceful session!

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Help, I’m an empath! Why you can’t sleep at night and what you can do about it. https://iheartintelligence.com/empath-why-cant-sleep-night/ Mon, 05 Aug 2019 10:47:46 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=49249 The post Help, I’m an empath! Why you can’t sleep at night and what you can do about it. appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Help, I'm an empath! Why you can't sleep at night and what you can do about it.

“I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.” (Walt Whitman, Song of Myself) Navigating through life as an empath can become quite the draining experience on one’s body and general energy levels. Due to this circumstance, sufficient time spent alone is a necessity for empathic people in order to […]

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Help, I'm an empath! Why you can't sleep at night and what you can do about it.

“I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.” (Walt Whitman, Song of Myself)

Navigating through life as an empath can become quite the draining experience on one’s body and general energy levels.

Due to this circumstance, sufficient time spent alone is a necessity for empathic people in order to regain control and recharge their internal batteries.

Intense thoughts, emotions, and feelings during a prolonged period of time lead to negative consequences to the overall well-being of an individual. An outcome most likely contributed by the disrupted sleep pattern caused by rapid, ongoing information processing.

The hyperactive mind

Memories and past experiences typically fuel an emotional response in the average individual. However, when it comes to empaths, those responses tend to be immensely overwhelming. Fear, anxiety, panic, and even paranoia tend to creep in uninvited. In result, the brain is persuaded to believe a genuine threat lies ahead.

This so-called ‘fight-or-flight’ response is, in evolutionary terms, a reaction of the nervous system in order to ensure survival. Having said that, it plays a damaging role for empaths, especially if habitually overused.

Consequently, it all comes down to the adrenal glands which are responsible for the production of energy-releasing hormones. When we are exposed to continuous high levels of anxiety or stress, lead an unhealthy lifestyle such as little to no sleep, a poor diet, and/or stressful relationships, we assign constant, unreasonable demands to those glands.

Overstimulation and Quick ‘Fixes’

While being only the size of a walnut, located in the lower back area, they are powerful. They benefit our concentration and stamina so that we are able to react appropriately to pressure. Nevertheless, over-stimulation to our adrenal glands causes the production of energy, which poses obstacles when trying to rest or sleep. This constant feeling of being on high alert burns them out and may induce a malfunction.

Therefore, our levels of energy during the day are insufficient and reach a low point. Quick fixes such as consuming high in refined salt or sugar foods, as well as caffeine-based drinks, become a temptation. A vicious cycle is then initiated, as junk food burns energy extremely quickly leaving us with none to spare. 

Damaged Sleep Pattern

Cortisol levels (one of the hormones produced by our adrenal glands) are important reasoning behind the weakened sleep rhythm. They typically increase throughout the night while reaching a climactic point a couple of hours before we awaken. Hence, this ensures an energetic, fresh start of the day.

When the adrenal glands are drained, feeling tired after a ‘supposedly’ peaceful 8 hours of sleep is an expected side-effect. Moreover, when experiencing stress and uneasiness, cortisol levels may reach the highest point late at night, explaining the difficulty to enter deep sleep.

With the mentioned glands not being able to work as intended, fatigue, irritability, anxiousness, and dizziness present a day-to-day struggle to cope with. Moreover, heart palpitations, low or high blood pressure, as well as overall indecisiveness, add to the challenging experience of the condition.

What can you do?

It takes a great deal of time in order to tend to the adrenal glands and entirely repair them. However, there are changes one could make in order to observe tangible, immediate changes.

1. Meditation before sleep:

you can tame your intrusive thoughts with mindfulness, shifting the obsessive attention from them to the ‘present’. With daily practice, you can learn to avoid triggering the hormone-induced physiological response.

2. Strive for balance:

getting up early, thinking positively and exercising (not too heavy though) lead to building a better sleeping pattern, as it lessens the overstimulation of the adrenal glands.

3. A healthy diet:

a balanced and healthy food choice (unrefined sugar and unrefined salt), can nurture and recharge our adrenal glands.

4. Spending time with family and friends:

surrounding yourself with positive energy and having a support system is an invaluable part of the journey. Take as much time as you can to spend with family and friends who lift you up.

5. Tackle the problem causing you stress:

last but not least- there is always a problem underlying your mental struggles. Although you may not see it as obvious (due to the stress you’re experiencing), make the conscious effort to figure out what keeps you down in life at the moment and how you can realistically deal with the issue. This will definitely be the cornerstone on the road to bettering your mental health

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5 proven ways to recover from stressful situations https://iheartintelligence.com/recover-from-stressful-situations/ Fri, 05 Jul 2019 11:37:42 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=45695 The post 5 proven ways to recover from stressful situations appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

5 proven ways to recover from stressful situations

Stress is a completely normal aspect of life. At some time or another, every human being experiences stress. Stress to your body can come in the form of workplace stress, financial anxiety, even disease. When you experience stress, your brain releases neurochemicals and hormones that help it decide whether or not you need to fight […]

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5 proven ways to recover from stressful situations

Stress is a completely normal aspect of life.

At some time or another, every human being experiences stress. Stress to your body can come in the form of workplace stress, financial anxiety, even disease. When you experience stress, your brain releases neurochemicals and hormones that help it decide whether or not you need to fight or run away.

A little stress isn’t a bad thing. But when stress becomes prolonged, chronic, and unmanageable, our body’s response to stress can and will eventually kill us. But there are things we can do to help reduce the impact of stress on our bodies and manage our stress levels.

Here are 5 tips for recovering from and controlling stress that are backed by science.

1. Exercise.

So here’s the deal. Anyone can exercise. As long as you can move your body, you can exercise. You don’t have to deadlift 300 pounds to reap the benefits of exercise. Even just going for a walk helps improve your overall stress levels. There are seemingly countless scientific studies that back up the idea that exercise can help reduce stress. How does it work?

When you engage in physical exercise, your body releases dopamine and other endogenous opiates. Have you ever heard of a “runner’s high” before? This is what creates that high. These hormones can reduce the impact of stress hormones on your body. Exercise also reduces blood pressure and can lower your BMI. Being overweight stresses your body as well.

2. Spend time in nature.

Spending time in nature can be rolled into exercise as well, creating a double-whammy of stress relief. One study by researchers at Stanford University showed that even just walking through greenspaces, like parks and forests, could reduce anxiety, and had a more positive impact than walking through urban environments.

3. Stand tall

Do you have bad posture? Do you tend to slump and slouch? You might be making your stress worse. According to another study published in the journal Health Psychology, people who stand upright with good posture tend to perform better in stressful situatuations. Researchers asked subjects to participate in a stressful speech task. Those who stood upright performed better and felt more positive than those who slouched. The slouching group felt more self-conscious and uneasy.

4. Take it easy.

When you’re stressed out, it’s easy to feel frazzled and rushed. One of the keys to de-stressing yourself may simply be slowing things down and taking it easy. When you think about how our brains evolved, we developed in a setting where we’d likely experience a great deal of stress, like running for a predator or attempting to hunt an animal, followed by lengthy periods of down time. That down time usually featured sex, eating, and sleeping. One of the best things you can do for yourself when you’re feeling stressed is to stop what you’re doing for 10 to 15 minutes, kick back, maybe eat something, take a quick power nap, and then press on. This can help you deal with stress.

5. Make it a game.

Yale and Harvard researchers working in conjunction published a study that indicates that the way you view your stress is paramount to how your body deals with it. If you view stressful situations as looming monsters, you’re more likely to suffer the worst effects of stress. But if you make it a game you have to beat or a challenge you have to conquer, you can develop a more positive response to stressful situations. So next time you’re feeling stressed out, think of it like a challenge!

Now that we know what makes stress better, what makes stress worse?

Just as important as finding ways to manage stress is knowing what causes stress to become worse. What should you avoid?

  • Using drugs to try to mitigate the impacts of stress.
  • Consuming alcohol or smoking cigarettes.
  • Eating when stressed.
  • Drinking too much caffeine.
  • Eating sugary foods.
  • Overdiscussing your stress.

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10 Ways Kids Appear To Be Naughty But In Reality, Are Not https://iheartintelligence.com/kids-appear-to-be-naughty-but-not/ Thu, 20 Jun 2019 08:32:30 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=45543 The post 10 Ways Kids Appear To Be Naughty But In Reality, Are Not appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

10 Ways Kids Appear To Be Naughty But In Reality, Are Not

You might need to resist the urge to discipline your kids as much after reading this. We’re going to discuss how sometimes, the behaviors that children demonstrate that seem to be “naughty” actually aren’t. Sometimes due to parental frustration and general short-sightedness, it can be tough to see that some of the ways your kids […]

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10 Ways Kids Appear To Be Naughty But In Reality, Are Not

You might need to resist the urge to discipline your kids as much after reading this.

We’re going to discuss how sometimes, the behaviors that children demonstrate that seem to be “naughty” actually aren’t.

Sometimes due to parental frustration and general short-sightedness, it can be tough to see that some of the ways your kids are acting out are perfectly normal, and in fact need to happen for healthy development.

Here we go!

1. Resistance for the sake of independence.

Your kid wants to wear shorts and you disagree that it is too cold and tell them to go put on pants instead. Even though this can sometimes cause a screaming match, research shows it might be a better idea to just let them go in those shorts after all. Your child is doing what kids start doing as toddlers: trying to make sense of the world around them and find their place in it. Steamrolling their choices with your own creates more resistance, and their development may pay the price as well.

2. Need for lots of movement.

How many times do you tell your kids to sit still and stop chasing each other and quit jumping on the sofa throughout the day? It may be time to take them to a playground or a walk to get the need to move out of them, at least for a little bit. Kids are little bundles of energy; they have an innate need for lots of movement. Instead of chastising them for being unable to sit still, perhaps give them the chance to get it all out and exhaust themselves.

3. Expressing big feelings bigly.

When your child screams, cries, yells or shouts, they are simply demonstrating that they don’t have the wherewithal to stuff their emotions the way adults have learned to do. Author and child psychologist Janet Lansbury suggests to “let feelings be”; instead of having a strong reaction to them. When your kids know it’s safe to express their big feelings around you, they identify you as a safe place.

4. Dealing with core conditions.

By this we’re referring to things like being hungry, tired, having too much sugar, exhaustion etc. Being able to spot this in your kiddo can help prevent a meltdown. Kids don’t know they can “just grab a snack” and may not be able to communicate what exactly they need. They rely on the safe adults in their lives to help ensure they don’t have a meltdown due to a core condition not being met.

5. Massive overstimulation.

Parenting these days is, it often seems, little more than shuttling your kids from one activity to the next (to the next to the next to the next). As this amount of activity is actually quite stressful and extremely overstimulating, kids throw tantrums, have meltdowns, and lose patience quickly. Again, your kid doesn’t know how to moderate the levels of stress and activity in healthy ways, so it’s up to you to ensure there is plenty of time for resting and relaxing throughout the day as well.

6. Not being able to control impulses.

When you tell a kid not to do something and they do it anyway they’re not being disobedient to bother or rattle you in any way…they do it anyway because they’re a kid. Impulsiveness is part of being a child, and sometimes it comes off as disobedience. Before you jump to the conclusion that if that’s the case your kid must have ADHD, read this first. Sometimes kids are just being kids.

7. Consistent responses to inconsistent limits.

When your behavior towards your child’s expectations and rewards is inconsistent, your child is going to consistently behave poorly. Consider carefully the message you’re sending with rewards and expectations, and ensure you can follow through consistently.

8. Kids emulate your mood.

If you’re unhappy, stressed, angry, upset, or otherwise malevolent kids react to these moods…generally by imitating them. If you are instead grounded, patient, happy, fun-loving, and affectionate, they will mirror these moods as well.

9. Need to play.

Kids have an innate necessity for playing. Being silly, funny, laughing, and connecting on these levels is absolutely essential to a happy childhood. Reconsider it the next time you think they are “acting out” because they hid your shoes and used your makeup — it’s just their way of saying they want to be like you, and they want to have fun with you.

10. The opposite of their strengths.

Your child may be super-driven to achieve in school but be a social wallflower, play hockey like Wayne Gretzky but have trouble finishing their math homework, or be the most popular kid in school who can’t get along with their siblings. Just like adults, your child’s strengths have foils, and they are often the opposite of those strengths. They don’t need scolding…they just need some help in developing those weaknesses.

What do you think? Do your kids demonstrated some of these behaviors?

Is it surprising that they aren’t really bad behaviors after all? We’d love it if you’d share your reaction in the comments.

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Negative People Can Cause Permanent Damage To Your Brain https://iheartintelligence.com/negative-people-cause-permanent-damage-brain/ Tue, 18 Jun 2019 11:42:01 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=46704 The post Negative People Can Cause Permanent Damage To Your Brain appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Negative People Can Cause Permanent Damage To Your Brain

While some negative people are blissfully unaware of the negative impact they have on the people around them, others derive satisfaction by creating chaos and getting on people’s nerves. Regardless of which category they fall under, they create unnecessary complexity and, worst of all, stress. Studies have found that stress can have a lasting negative […]

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Negative People Can Cause Permanent Damage To Your Brain

While some negative people are blissfully unaware of the negative impact they have on the people around them, others derive satisfaction by creating chaos and getting on people’s nerves.

Regardless of which category they fall under, they create unnecessary complexity and, worst of all, stress.

Studies have found that stress can have a lasting negative impact on the brain. Exposing yourself to even a few days of stress will compromise the effectiveness of neurons in the hippocampus, which is an important area of the brain in charge of memory and reasoning. And while weeks of ongoing stress causes reversible neuronal dendrite damage (the small “arms” that brain cells use to communicate with each other), months of stress can destroy neurons permanently.

Stress is a serious threat to your success in life – when stress gets out of control, both your performance and your brain suffer.

Even if the particular negativity appears harmless and hypothetical, the thalamus and the amygdala areas of our brain are not able to make a distinction between the stress of a pessimistic social media post and the stress of something that could harm us physically. Rick Hanson, a neurophysiologist, best selling author, and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, has described “experience-dependent neuroplasticity,” as the concept that our thoughts and experiences are literally shaping our brains. Experiences can foster the growth of new synapses and even change your genes, making the control of your experienced stimuli a matter that could have an effect on your future offspring.

And now that we understand how destructive the negative people around you are, the best plan of action would be to ditch any such relationships you might have and completely focus on building a circle of people around you who make you feel you feel your best. However, if you must continue to be around this group, simply ask how they intend to fix the problems they are currently facing. This will immediately make it clear to them that you will not be joining in their misery, and thus the conversation will be redirected in a more positive, productive direction and everyone’s mental health will be left intact.

Do you have your own strategy for dealing with negative people? Share it with us in the comment section below!

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9 Personal Traits Of Empaths That Make Them Hard To Love https://iheartintelligence.com/personal-traits-make-empaths-hard-to-love/ Thu, 24 Jan 2019 15:16:23 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=41039 The post 9 Personal Traits Of Empaths That Make Them Hard To Love appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

9 Personal Traits Of Empaths That Make Them Hard To Love

Empaths are individuals who possess strong sensitivity and act with understanding and compassion toward others. They often get exhausted if they spend too much time among other people because they tend to absorb their feelings. Although empaths are blessed with many positive qualities, to love such a person could turn out more difficult than you […]

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9 Personal Traits Of Empaths That Make Them Hard To Love

Empaths are individuals who possess strong sensitivity and act with understanding and compassion toward others.

They often get exhausted if they spend too much time among other people because they tend to absorb their feelings.

Although empaths are blessed with many positive qualities, to love such a person could turn out more difficult than you have ever imagined. The reason lies in their character.

Here are 9 personal traits of empaths that make them hard to love

1. They need to be alone

First of all, empaths need to spend some time on their own. They want to stay alone for a while because as mentioned above when they meet with other people, they absorb their feelings, and this exhausts them to death. Being alone gives the empath an opportunity to relieve the emotional stress they’ve been through and regain their strength.

2. They Can’t say No

The empath’s warmheartedness goes as far as not paying attention to their own needs. Or in other words, empaths are always ready to help others even when they need help themselves. That could cause problems for their wellbeing. The inability of empaths to say no is something that could certainly make the relationship with them difficult. An empath can’t set their boundaries and might spend a lot of energy and time on people and situations that probably don’t concern them.

3. They Pay too much attention to details

This is a result of their highly sensitive personality. Empaths usually notice small details. Because of that, they can’t stay focused on one thing. This trait of their character could be annoying and difficult to bear. Certainly, it’s not nice to have a partner who gets distracted easily by insignificant things while you expect them to help you do something really important.

4. They behave like your parent

The empath thinks it’s his or her obligation to help, heal and guide others (especially their partner). As a result, they could start behaving like a parent. But loving your significant other doesn’t have anything to do with being their mom or dad. Successful relationships are based on mutual understanding, respect, and equality.

5. They fall for emotionally hurt people

For empaths, love equates to helping others. For this reason, they try to save people and very often fall in love with someone who has problems and needs emotional support. Most often the empath starts a relationship with the narcissist. Unfortunately, such relationships usually end sadly.

6. They are honest

Empaths are honest and always speak the truth even though they try to say it without being harsh. Although being honest is a positive trait in general very often the truth is painful and difficult to handle. As a result, at some point, the empath’s partner or friend could start feeling uncomfortable because they have to deal with too much honesty.

7. They are always busy helping others

Empaths are a very different kind of people. The reason for that is they always help and heal other individuals and often forget their own needs. Sadly being good to others could be fatal to the empath’s personal life. There comes a time when their partner starts feeling neglected because the empath is always busy with someone else’s problems.

Here is what Mateo Sol, writes in Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing.  This explains why empaths feel so deeply they have to help and heal others:

“The sad thing that many of us empaths don’t realize is that often our desire to heal others is a disguised cry for help for our healing. Because many of us weren’t taught how to value or nurture ourselves at a young age, we tend to seek out our healing in the healing of others unconsciously.” 

8. Too much stress

Many empaths struggle with mental conditions like anxiety and depression because they always feel the pain of others and tend to personalize other people’s emotions and actions. The fact is that empaths are highly sensitive. That could cause too much stress and could lead to emotional exhaustion.

9. Their love is strong but complicated

Last but not least the love of the empath is intense, sincere and unique. Being loved by an empath means being cherished and appreciated. Having someone who’s always there for you no matter what. However, these people are sometimes difficult to bear – they are too honest, they give too much, they are too sensitive to other people’s problems. And that makes them difficult to be loved by someone who doesn’t see the world through their eyes.

The truth is that empaths are like emotional sponges.

They absorb the emotions of the people who they have contact with. Their kind, sensitive souls, are a blessing for the ones who need emotional help and support but for their families and friends, the empaths could be a heavy burden.

The empath’s sensitive personality could be the reason for falling apart of their relationships. Not too many people would be happy to have a partner who spends most of their time and energy helping others. That is why empaths are hard to love.

Have you ever loved an empath?

Please, tell us in the comments.

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How Stress Affects the Skin https://iheartintelligence.com/how-stress-affects-skin/ Tue, 26 Jun 2018 07:20:04 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=32591 The post How Stress Affects the Skin appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

How Stress Affects the Skin

In today’s society, it often feels like it’s impossible to avoid stress. Between working nine to five, hurrying to that morning meeting, taking care of our kids, remembering to pay the bills and trying to catch some sleep, it’s no wonder we end up spending most of our days trying to outrun our stress. Besides […]

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How Stress Affects the Skin

In today’s society, it often feels like it’s impossible to avoid stress. Between working nine to five, hurrying to that morning meeting, taking care of our kids, remembering to pay the bills and trying to catch some sleep, it’s no wonder we end up spending most of our days trying to outrun our stress.

Besides the effect that stress has on your mental well being, stress also shows up on your face.

1. Premature Aging

Here’s a little more stressful news for you: stress can make you look older. An ample amount of research confirms that stress will quicken your skin’s aging process.

Your eyes are usually the first to show signs of distress as they’re surrounded with very delicate tissue. Stress can give you dark circles, which turn into heavy bags under your eyes. If your stress issues aren’t addressed early enough, your eyes will also become more susceptible to wrinkles.

If ditching the source of your stress is simply impossible at the moment, there are lots of topical products, like Retin-A, which has been shown to help get rid of wrinkles.

You can also take a couple of cucumber slices or tea bags and place them under your eyes for 30-45 minutes. You are certain to reap the benefits of this time-tested spa technique. Just lay back and relax.

2. Stress Rash

Having heightened levels of stress can also give you a stress rash.

Stress rashes usually take the form of hives or welts. In fact, they’re so uncomfortable that it’s often impossible not to scratch. As then, as a result, you’ll probably experience a burning sensation and an even bigger rash. They’re very blotchy and usually spread to other nearby areas.

The hives typically go away on their own in less than 48 hours, but most people simply can’t withstand the misery they bring with them. One quick, common treatment for stress rashes are antihistamines, like Benadryl or Zyrtec. You can also experience a bit of relief by soaking in a cold bath or shower. Just avoid hot water at all costs as it will likely amplify your symptoms.

3. Acne

This may not come as news to you, but acne isn’t something that disappears with the woes of adolescence. Stress releases high amounts of cortisol, causing an imbalance with the other hormones within the body that often leads to adult acne and other skin flare-ups. These flare-ups also exacerbate rosacea, eczema, and psoriasis-prone skin.

4. Dull Skin

As weird as it may sound, stress will suck the moisture out of your skin. It reduces the skin’s lipid barrier, allowing its fluids to evaporate. The end result is super dry skin. Chronic stress also causes skin cells to take longer to reach the surface and flake off, leading to a build-up of dead skin. This makes the skin appear rather dull.

5. Scarring

Feeling stressed out can lead to the development or resurfacing of tic behaviors. Tic behaviors, such as picking or scratching skin subconsciously which can lead to scarring. These behaviours can occur without being stressed but stress often exacerbates these conditions. If you find yourself unable to stop these habits talk to your doctor, as there can often be underlying issues.

So How Do I Combat Stress?

Unfortunately, no part of the body is immune from stress. With the skin being our bodies largest organ, it’s just one more reason why we definitely want to take better care of ourselves. This includes taking control of our emotions as well as our physical health.

Consuming plenty of water is vital to overall health, as is a well-balanced diet. Try to consume as many fruits and vegetables as you can stand, your body simply will not thrive without proper nourishment.

Zen session anyone? As obvious as it sounds, people sometimes forget that we can actually reduce stress by just taking the time to calm down. It may sound too simple to make enough difference, but it isn’t. Start by monitoring your breath. This can be done at any time in any setting. All you need to do is deeply inhale… and then slowly exhale. Try this a few times to combat stress in the act.

Meditating for only 10 minutes a day can and will drastically improve the way your body responds to stressors. Incorporate some essential oils to ramp up it’s effects.

Remembering to stay active is key. Taking a 15 minute walk every day or dropping in on the local yoga class will do the trick. We often forget that our bodies weren’t designed to live a sedentary life. Exercise will pump up your endorphins (your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters), causing you to instantly feel less stressed. So remember, in order to keep your skin looking radiant, you need to adopt as many methods as you can to keep your stress levels at bay. Once you can do that, not only will your skin look and feel that much better, but so will your entire being.

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