“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Marilyn Monroe
Do you sometimes find yourself feeling as if you have a well of potential in front of you, but for some reason, you keep holding yourself back?
You have an illustrious imagination and can spot endless possibilities. No goal seems to be out of reach in your mind’s eye. But for some reason, when push comes to shove, you just cannot seem to get yourself to do the things you know you should be doing.
It feels like something is holding you back from living your life to its full potential.
You guessed it right, this is all the fault of your own insecurities.
What follows are 7 steps that will help you to work through your insecurities and take full control of your life.
1. Visualize yourself as the person you want to be
Visualization is the art of seeing a version of yourself you can be proud of, in the space of your own mind. When we struggle with low self-esteem, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is rarely accurate. Practice visualizing everything you want to be in order to get where you want to be.
2. Revisit the successes of your past
It is natural for us to let others down from time to time, and when it happens we usually take it much more to heart than the person we have let down. It is astounding how a great number of achievements can easily be forgotten when one tiny failure comes into play. Being too harsh on yourself only exacerbates your feelings of failure, which is to the benefit of nobody. Apologize and keep on walking by looking back at the numerous times you’ve kept your word and contributed to making the world a better place.
3. Make a list of all your skills and qualities
What skills do you have and what are you good at in your workplace? Some people have told you that you are smart and always find solutions to certain problems. Other people believe that you’re great in other areas, so try to do some brainstorming and write down all your positive qualities.
4. Do one thing that scares you every day
The best way to conquer your fears is to face them each day. By doing things that scare you every day you will gain confidence from every such experience. So get out of your comfort zone and face your fears!
5. Get to work
There is no easy fix. Confidence is almost like trust: hard to develop, easy to lose. The best you can do is to put your head up and try to do your best. The only thing that can make you feel more confident is success. Improvement breeds confidence. Competence creates competence. Success creates confidence. So, get back on track and start succeeding again in order for your confidence to find its way back to you.
6. Celebrate each win (even the small ones)
Confidence can be fragile, and a big defeat can cause you to lose it for long periods of time. It’s imperative to recover as quickly as you can. Work on winning no matter if the tasks are small and build on those over the course of your life – going for bigger and bigger wins each time.
Teach yourself to say no. Teach others to respect your personal space. If the situation calls for it, take classes, read books, or watch videos on how to become more assertive and learn to ask for the things you want. The more control you have over your own life, the greater your confidence, and the greater the respect you receive from others will be.
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