Saying That You Love Someone Matters As Much As Showing Them That You Do
Although many of us won’t admit it being told by our loved ones how much we mean to them matters a lot. Hearing “I love you”, “you are the most important person in my life”, or a “thank you for being by my side” could make us extremely happy. After all, there is nothing more precious in this world than the love and recognition of our family and friends.
And, no the need to hear that someone cares for you doesn’t make you weak. It means that you are a sensitive person who has a heart and wants to give and receive love.
The truth is that there are a lot of ways to show that you love someone and saying it is one of them. Of course, words mean nothing if they don’t correspond to our actions but the verbal expression of the affection someone feels for you is extremely powerful too.
Furthermore, feelings sometimes are hidden deep inside our souls. So, “just knowing” how much the other person loves us is not enough. Remember: a strong, long-lasting relationship could not go without explicit verbal expressions of the emotions the two partners share for each other.
“Well chosen words mixed with measured emotions is the basis of affecting people”.
And his words hold a lot of truth. We don’t need to hear all the time what we mean to our loved ones, but it’s necessary that once in a while they say how much they care for us. In fact, a relationship deprived of romantic words will inevitably make the partners full of doubts and fears and could end up tragically.
Words of love are also motivating, inspiring and energizing. Listening to someone expressing their appreciation for us is a feast for the ears and brings happiness and satisfaction. It strengthens the bond we have established with the other person. And also makes the relationship run smoother because words mirroring our actions, increase the trust in our partner. Maria Montessori has once said:
“The development of language is part of the development of the personality, for words are the natural means of expressing thoughts and establishing understanding between people”.
Here is why actons and words both matter. And you should not go without one or the other in your relationship. Hearing phrases like “thank you”, “you are amazing” or “I love you” is necessary. So, if you worry that your partner is not talking to you about how they feel you’d better tell them about that.
Another important fact is that little kids also need to be told they are loved. Actually, they are the ones who need to hear it the most. Kids cannot always understand that someone cares for them by that person’s actions but they will always feel loved if they are told they are.
Remember nothing is more important for a child’ s confidence than having parents who constantly show and tell their kid how much they love them.
“Our language is the reflection of ourselves. A language is an exact reflection of the character and growth of its speakers”. Cesar Chavez
Here is why, unfortunately, children who are raised by emotionally cold parents are insecure and unconfident. They grow up this way and their parents’ distant behavior usually affects their whole life. These kids usually become adults with behavioral and cognitive disorders such as alexithymia which consists of the inability to define and identify your emotions.
So, if we want our children to grow in peace with themselves, be confident and intelligent we need to communicate with them and never stop showing and saying how much we care about them.
Sadly, nowadays it seems that parents and people, in general, don’t quite succeed to express their feelings. This results in kids bullying other kids in the classroom, romantic partners arguing instead of being happy, and colleagues not being supportive of each other.
Another factor that has led to this sad situation is the fact that people prefer communicating on social media instead of seeing each other face to face. It seems that many of us are so busy with other things that they don’t find time to say in person to their loved ones how much they care for them and do it on social media instead.
Remember people who love you need to be sure you love them too. So, saying to them in person that you do from time to time is absolutely necessary. Communication is a vital part of every relationship. That’s why expressing our feelings the right way can be the key to a successful long-lasting one. So, never forget to make effective use of language when it comes to love.