Attachment can be an evil thing, it can lead you into doing stupid things all in the hopes of getting yourself closer to someone you either can’t be with, or are not supposed to be with.
The absolute worst feeling in the world is falling in love with someone who you can’t be with. We can’t help who we fall in love with, it just happens. Many times, when people fall in love there is a certain pull to be with that person. Feelings become stronger and the need to be with them just keeps growing. However, sometimes you’re just not meant to be together. It’s a hard pill to swallow and unfortunately, sometimes time is just not on your side.
Here is a list of 5 things to do which will help you handle the pain and frustration of not being with the person you love:
1. When you are with that person, enjoy your time together
Everything good in this universe will have its time. If you are spending time with someone who unfortunately you cannot be with (because its not your time) make sure to cherish each moment. It can be tempting to ask them for more time but just have faith that you will at some point get all the time you need with them.
2. Emerge yourself in something creative
Hobbies and crafts are a great way to get your brain off whatever it may be that’s bothering you. Finding something that you can put your energy into is an awesome way to distract yourself from the fact that you cannot be with the certain someone.
3. Limit your contact with them to in order to heal yourself
Limiting your contact with them can only be beneficial because if you spend to much ‘friend’ time with them you will only end up throwing salt on the already opened wound.
4. Spend more time with other friends
Spending time with friends that don’t know this person is also a good and sure way to get over the person you can’t be with. Friends tend to have a way with distracting you from constantly obsessing or thinking about that person.
5. Date other people’s
The person you’re obsessing about and wishing you could be with is already with someone else so torturing yourself is pointless. Don’t allow this fact to stop you from meeting other people, get out there and open yourself up to the possibility of meeting someone new who isn’t already taken. Who knows, you might just like them more.