“All souls are lost until they are found.” ―
Setting yourself free from a narcissistic relationship isn’t easy.
When you’re in a narcissistic relationship you’re dating someone who thinks he’s better than everyone else, including you.
You’re with someone who always wants to be the center of attention. And this is why he’ll always put himself before you, never addressing your needs and feelings.
Sometimes you get some happy moments when he gives you bits of attention, and then you realize your relationship should have been like this all the time.
But you don’t take action. Not until it’s too late.
A relationship with a narcissist can cause considerable damage to your self-esteem
Your role in the relationship is to feed his ego because it’s all about him and never about you. In time, you get used to being the second option and not receiving enough love, respect, and attention. You get used to being manipulated and that’s how you lose self-worth and dignity.
And when you meet a nice guy who treats you the way you deserve
You will feel out of your comfort zone because up to this point nothing was about you and everything was about him.
Here are some of the things that will happen when you meet a nice guy after your narcissistic relationship:
He knows your worth
Your last relationship crushed your confidence, made you feel bad about yourself and made you doubt your own intellectual abilities and strength.
But, this man will know how smart and capable you truly are and that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
He’s always there to support you and help you unleash your full potential. He will make you believe in yourself again.
He will treat you the way you deserve
He showers you with kindness and is doing all the simple things you never experienced before. You’ve been trapped in an egoistic relationship and you never thought what it would be like if your guy did something nice for a change.
But now that you have it, you’re not sure how to react at first.
He pays attention to what you’ve got to say
Your last relationship was all about him. The only word you’ve been listening to all the time was ‘I’; I was there, I did that.
You have the right to speak freely, without fear of being judged or laughed at. Your new man will listen to you and your words will have meaning to him.
He will be interested in what you have to say, eager to hear all about you and your past.
He apologizes when he’s wrong
You have been made to apologize for anything just to avoid arguments – even though sometimes your fights got out of control and you argued until one of you walked away. And when you calmed down, life went on. This became part and parcel of your relationship – an endless routine you couldn’t get out of.
But this guy is different. Naturally, you will have fights because everyone does. But the one thing that will strike you as different is that you will hear him say those three little words: “I was wrong”.
He will teach you the meaning of love
One day you will realize that your old relationship was never actually love but a fake concept of love that almost shattered your own definition.
It was all a charade and a trap. He made you think that you love him.
Then you wake up and look at the person sleeping next to you and you understand what love truly means.
And while the lasting effects of being with an awful person can impact who you are today and the relationships you have, when someone treats you the way you deserve, you will wonder how you settled for anything less in the past.