At times we find ourselves dating people we adore, or would love to adore, but we just seem to be incompatible.
Take a look at some of the signs that your crush might not be the one. If you can relate to any of those, then maybe it’s time to move on and meet a person you’ve got more in common with if you want it to work in the long run.
1. You’re both unwilling to compromise
Even if you initially don’t want the same things. a relationship can still find its way to work. Whether it’s about work, marriage, or having children, if both of you are unshakable in your stances, and those stances are opposing, you’ll inevitably run into problems in your relationship down the road unless you learn to compromise.
2. You’re on a vastly different intellectual level
If you’re a Ph.D. and your partner never finished high school, it might be difficult for you two to find common intellectual ground.
In the beginning, you may be able to bypass your differences and still have a good time. Normally, in the first stages of a relationship, you are blinded by love. But after your “honeymoon phase” comes to an end, there will most likely be some hard to overlook differences between you two that might prove to be hard to combat.
Now that doesn’t have to mean you two are incompatible. As long as you can engage in meaningful and thoughtful conversations and enjoy doing similar things, you could make it work.
Acknowledge the differences and make a decision based on what your gut feeling tells you.
3. Your fights don’t have resolutions
Unfortunately, another sign that you and your partner are not compatible is that you keep fighting over the same things with no end.
Even the strongest couples fight, but compatible couples will work together to resolve their arguments. If you and your significant other are finding this to be an unattainable goal, it might simply mean you’re incompatible.
4. You keep many things to yourself to avoid conflict
If you ignore a lot of things just in order to avoid confrontations or you’ve convinced yourself that things will eventually change, that is a certain sign that you and your partner may not be meant for each other.
Conflict and confrontation may be uncomfortable but they are also inevitable. If you want to keep your relationship healthy, you need to be willing to express your feelings no matter the cost.
Successful long-lasting couples understand the necessity to work through conflict and deal with it in a way that brings them closer together. You will never be truly satisfied if you’re not being seen or heard.
5. You don’t fully trust each other
If you two don’t trust each other fully, your relationship is doomed to fail. Trust is one of the main building blocks of any relationship and it is often cultivated over time. If you one of you has behaved in a way that has led the other to harbor feelings of distrust, this must be addressed head-on within the relationship. If your partner is ignoring your concerns and is unwilling to consider your feelings, then they might not be the right person for you.
6. Your instincts are telling you something is not right
Regardless of how great your relationship appears on the outside, there are always going to be some points of dissatisfaction. No matter if they are tiny spats or huge blowouts, you might, on some level understand that you two are incompatible if you feel it deep down in your soul.
7. You feel like you need to change who you are to make them happy
If you have started feeling like you need to change yourself to please your partner, this may be a sign you need to break things off. As you grow you need support and it’s simply not worth changing yourself while extending a relationship that doesn’t have a natural flow. At some point, you will inevitably ask yourself if being in a relationship with this person is truly worth sacrificing your happiness for. It is, therefore, crucial to find someone who likes you for who you really are.
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