Here’s Why You Should Stop Trying To Only See The Good In People

There’s no question that we’re all imperfect and prone to make mistakes. But it is the immediate reaction upon making a mistake that shows the true colors of people. Actions indeed are way louder than words.

So it is time to stop looking only at the positive sides of people and begin paying more attention to what they actually show you.

The following is a list of toxic behaviors you should never tolerate under any circumstances:

1. A lack of respect

You can’t hope to feel respected by a person who insults you and openly attacks you. If you are being put down, emotionally harassed, and made feeling low and unworthy, make no mistake, they do it because they truly mean it. Don’t put up with such nonsense.

2. A controlling partner

A sane and loving relationship can only last a lifetime if the people involved do their best to make things work when problems arise. And that excludes trying to dominate or control the other person. Love is about freedom, not the possession of another.

3. No consideration for boundaries

At one point or another, we’ve all crossed some boundaries, most often without intending to do so. And if that’s the case, all it takes to make things right can be as simple as saying sorry. However, there’s a huge difference between making a mistake and crossing someone else’s boundaries purposefully. That is just nothing but toxicity right there.

4. Emotional neglect

There’s no question that an emotionally neglectful person who can’t even commit to more than a sleepover is not worthy of trust. And be sure, this is the last person who would be able to offer you what you need.

5. Negativity 

It is your own choice who you let in your life, and so is what you allow them to do to you. Those we surround ourselves with should help us to become better human beings. They should motivate us, inspire us, and lift us up to new heights. Not make us question our potential.

6. Insults regarding appearance

You need to be aware that someone who always finds ways to take digs at your looks or choice of clothing most likely doesn’t have your best interests at heart. It’s even worse if they make you feel bad about things you have no control over. So don’t even think about keeping such people around.

7. Diminishing your achievements in life

A person who belittles your successes by making themselves look superior is doing so out of resentment. It is a prime example of vicious jealousy. Make no mistake, if this kind of person had their way, they would roll over you to get what they want. Send them where they belong – anywhere that isn’t near you.

8. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a tactic manipulators employ to shatter your defenses by making you question your own sanity. A gaslighter is usually aware of your deepest secrets and insecurities and uses them against you for their own selfish purposes.

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