We all have them, we all struggle with them, and we are all still trying to figure out how to fight them.
The key is not to let these thoughts control you.
Unfortunately, this is much easier said than done.
While we all struggle with negative thoughts, some of us are more fragile-minded. They find it extremely difficult to oppose the power of the small voice in their heads that tells them they’re never going to be good enough. Eventually, they let this little voice shout louder and louder until it silences them completely and takes control over their lives.
When you allow negative thoughts to take over, you become a victim of your own mind. The overthinking turns into depression and makes you feel as if your whole world is falling apart. You start losing sleep, constantly feeling down, struggling to handle your own presence. Your own thoughts are telling you things like “You’re not good enough,” “You’re a failure,” “You don’t deserve to be loved.” You experience suffocating panic attacks when you’re on your own. All this agony is pushing you to the verge of a mental breakdown.
But what if you could defy these negative thoughts? What if you were stronger than the little voice in your head telling you you’re worthless? It all can fade away as long as you realize one simple thing:
Sometimes it’s not the pain that makes you suffer. It’s your own negative thoughts that make things seem worse.
Once you apprehend this one simple realization, you will be able to earn back the control over your mind. You will have the strength to silence the voice that made you feel so insignificant. What’s more, you will be able to challenge your negative thoughts with positive ones.
Imagine you’re talking to a dear friend of yours. Would you tell them they should feel bad about themselves? No. You would encourage them to never give up on their dreams even when moving forward seems impossible. You would go above and beyond to help them get back on their feet, and you would remind them of all the amazing things about them to calm their distressed souls. So, why are you treating yourself any differently?
Instead of seeing yourself as an enemy, see yourself as a friend. When your own mind is trying to trick you into believing you’re not good enough, contradict it by saying you are. Tell yourself things like “I can handle this,” “I am capable,” “I am strong.” Close the chapter of you being a slave to your negative thinking and start a new one of you being in charge.
Create yourself the positive plot twist you deserve.
“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.”
– Dan Millman
Negative thoughts will never entirely disappear. That’s a harsh truth we all need to come to terms with.
However, even though you can’t stop them from coming back, you can control how you react to them. You have the power to say a firm “NO!” to the nasty little voice that tries to silence you. You have the emotional intelligence to replace the negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Just let the dark reflections of your mind flow through and focus on the bright ones. It won’t be easy, but it will be life-changing.
You can’t always choose your thoughts. But you can control the way you react to them.
You have been through a lot. You have experienced pain in nearly all of its forms. Your life has always been challenging and confusing. But all the obstacles on your way made you strong. The hardships helped you become mindful of the world around you. They have met you with wonderful people who now play a significant role in your life. These people love you for who you are. They may not be many, but they are real.
There are so many things you should be thankful for. The next time a negative thought tries to slip through, why don’t you halt it with a positive one? Why don’t you remind yourself of all of the things that make you smile?
Start your morning with a positive affirmation. In your head, list a few things that bring warmth to your heart. Just like you open a window to let fresh air inside of your home, open your mind to let the positive thoughts in. Shift your focus to the things that make you happy.
Change your thoughts, and you change your world.