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The truth is I'm strong but I'm tired

Always being the strong one is mentally exhausting, isn’t it? But the truth is staying sane while crying out tears no one knows you cried is showing admirably high levels of emotional intelligence. Even when you’ve only known heartbreak, you still believe there’s true love. Despite all the times you’ve been hurt by the ones […]

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The truth is I'm strong but I'm tired

Always being the strong one is mentally exhausting, isn’t it?

But the truth is staying sane while crying out tears no one knows you cried is showing admirably high levels of emotional intelligence.

Even when you’ve only known heartbreak, you still believe there’s true love. Despite all the times you’ve been hurt by the ones you thought would never hurt you, you still see goodness in everyone. And when someone’s being unreasonably rude, you never respond with disrespect. Instead, you simply bite your tongue, knowing that their behavior isn’t a reflection of you, but of themselves.

Only a strong person like you can put themselves in other’s shoes and empathize even on the ones who have mistreated them the most. Because strength means overcoming yourself and helping others, even when they don’t deserve your help.

Undeniably, you have the mind and the spirit of a powerful human being.

But you’re also so darn tired of being the strong one, aren’t you? 

You’re tired of pretending everything is fine while you’re dying inside of sadness. You’re tired of blaming yourself for other’s mistakes and beating yourself up for trusting the wrong people. Frankly, you’re just tired of being tired. All you want is to be able to show your weaknesses, without being judged by the ones who expect you to always be reasonable. Is this too much to ask for?

Countless nights you’ve been losing sleep, thinking about all the times your heart was torn into pieces. After all the times your hopes were shattered, and all the times you were the only one there for you when you needed someone, you managed to remain strong and sane. All the sleepless nights and the negative thoughts are draining every last bit of your energy. Yet, you still put a smile on your face. This strength of yours is truly precious. But the burden of not being able to show your flaws is slowly killing you inside.

The saddest part is, most of the people in your circle don’t even know how you’re actually feeling. They see your big smile and your admirable confidence, and they automatically think you’ve got your life together. But what they don’t see is how you’re losing yourself in an attempt to make everyone else happy. They can’t even imagine how emotionally exhausting it is to be constantly challenged by life, just because you can handle the pain.

What others believe you effortlessly carry on your shoulders is weighing your soul down.

You’ve been stuck in an endless loop of overthinking, agonizing, and pretending to be okay when in reality, your heart is bleeding.

Candidly, carrying such a burden can be incredibly hurtful. You are familiar with pain on levels no one in your circle is. You’ve known sadness like no one else. You may think this makes you weak or damaged, but it actually makes you even stronger. This makes you love deeper, and genuinely appreciate every little joy in your life.

Despite all the sadness, your heart is still able to open up for true love. Even though you’ve been aching for so long, you know someday it will all be worth it. Although your soul is tired, you will always choose the path you’ve already chosen.

You are rare, remember that. Your kind is the light the world needs to heal. Your empathy, humanity, and compassion are what makes you strong, not the way you manage to hide your pain.

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8 Telltale Signs You’re Being Manipulated https://iheartintelligence.com/signs-youre-being-manipulated/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:47:18 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63041 The post 8 Telltale Signs You’re Being Manipulated appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

8 Telltale Signs You're Being Manipulated

The worst thing about manipulation is that in many situations we don’t even realize it’s happening to us. Manipulators twist thoughts, actions, and desires to their own liking and mold us into servants of their own needs. Needless to say, this can be quite frightening. Here are some of the biggest signs that you are […]

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8 Telltale Signs You're Being Manipulated

The worst thing about manipulation is that in many situations we don’t even realize it’s happening to us.

Manipulators twist thoughts, actions, and desires to their own liking and mold us into servants of their own needs. Needless to say, this can be quite frightening.

Here are some of the biggest signs that you are being manipulated.

1. They are always the victim – you are always the ‘bad guy.’

The manipulator will constantly try to make you out to be a bad person, while they hide their own guilt under the veil of victimhood. When they happen to cause you pain they will twist reality to make it seem as if you’re guilty of something even if you aren’t. And the more you try to set the story straight, the more they will twist the facts.

2. They push you to make hasty decisions based on emotion

Manipulators understand that quick, underthought emotional decisions are a key tool for them to get what they want. If you aren’t given enough time to consider the pros and cons of something, or if they manage push you into making a hasty decision, they win. Stand your ground by saying things like “give me some time to think about it,” and the manipulator will most likely lose interest.

3. Their actions don’t match their words

Those who seek to manipulate you will say the things you want to hear but they will never back their words with actions. They will say one thing and do something completely different, making you wonder what on earth is going on. The more you put your hopes in them, the more disappointments you will come to taste.

4. They use your insecurities as a weapon against you

The manipulator will seek your company in order to learn about your strengths and weaknesses. They do this because it is a shortcut for them to gain more control over you. They will use your deepest secrets and insecurities to bring you down when you become an obstacle.

5. They gaslight you

Gaslighting is a tool manipulators use to make you feel like you’re going insane. They do a number of shady things such as pretend they never said a specific thing, pretend you never told them things, twist the truth, leave out information, re-invent the past to their own liking, make you think like you don’t remember things, and make you question your own mental wellbeing.  At one point you will start being suspicious of your own brain, and this is where you might start thinking “I need my partner to keep me in check”…

6. They always make sure to remind you about your promises

“You promised” is a great sentence that will force you to do anything the manipulator tells you to, even if your gut feeling tells you to go against it. We all want people to think of us as people who keep their promises. No one wants to be seen as a promise-breaker. You must always be fully aware and clear about what you are promising so that they cannot blackmail you later.

7. They are constantly giving you ultimatums

The manipulator is never willing to make compromises for you. To them, it’s always ‘My way or the highway.’ The more you try to level the playfield the more they will pull in the other direction.

8. They do a lot of flattering

Complimenting is the manipulator’s most precious weapon. After all, if you are such a great and wonderful person, how can you say no to their humble request, right? They use this method to get what they want from you. Watch out if someone starts to flatter you out of the blue and it starts feeling weird!

Have you ever dealt with a person who uses these manipulation tactics? How did you deal with them? Let us know by joining the conversation in the comments and please share this article if you’ve found it of value. 

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If You Have Lost A Parent, Stay Strong – You Are Not Alone https://iheartintelligence.com/if-you-have-lost-a-parent-stay-strong-you-are-not-alone/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:46:02 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63323 The post If You Have Lost A Parent, Stay Strong – You Are Not Alone appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

If You Have Lost A Parent, Stay Strong - You Are Not Alone

If you have experienced the loss of a parent, do not despair – you are not alone. We all have to deal with this crushing experience at some point in life. The loss of a parent is a soul-shattering event. Whether you were on good terms or were never able to spend much time together, […]

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If You Have Lost A Parent, Stay Strong - You Are Not Alone

If you have experienced the loss of a parent, do not despair – you are not alone.

We all have to deal with this crushing experience at some point in life.

The loss of a parent is a soul-shattering event. Whether you were on good terms or were never able to spend much time together, the loss you are faced with when a person dies that has been in your life since you came into this world is something that cannot be dealt with without a certain amount of suffering. Your parents greeted you into this world and taught you so much about life, helping you to become the person you are today.

While they may not have been perfect, they did everything to their abilities to give you the life they couldn’t have and would never have traded you for anything in the world. No matter what may have happened between you, now they no more. They are free from all the suffering in this world.

Each time the Christmas holidays come by, you will be reminded of the great times you had as a family.

And you will keep wondering what may have been if they didn’t go so soon. But no matter your thoughts and the pain you may be feeling, you must remember not to let that struggle take control of your life.

Moreover, your parents would not want you to drown in sorrow when they go. They would want you to move on and enjoy life to its fullest, celebrating each day as the most precious.

Be grateful for the experiences and life lessons they have given you and never forget that they will always be with you, even if you cannot see them, they are part of you. 

Do not hesitate to seek advice and guidance from other members of your family as well as your friends when you are feeling weak. None of us are made of steel and we all need a little help sometimes. You are not the only person facing this issue, and in time your children will have to face it too.

Life is not eternal, and we must all do what we can to honor the ones we have lost by passing down their wisdom to the next generations.

If you don’t stop the process of growth and share the stories of your parents and grandparents, they will live on, and will, in a way, always be among you.

You may feel as if your life as you knew it is over, but once you give yourself the needed time to go through the pain, it will start getting easier. Your mom and dad would never want you to put your life on hold and ruin yourself. They are smiling down on you and want to see you fulfill your dreams, the way you told them you would.

We hope that this read has helped you cope with your loss. If you know someone else who may be suffering from the loss of a parent, please don’t hesitate to share this article with them.

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How Emotional Abuse Can Harm You And What To Do To Get Your Life Back https://iheartintelligence.com/how-emotional-abuse-can-harm-you-and-what-to-do-to-get-your-life-back/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:44:44 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63527 The post How Emotional Abuse Can Harm You And What To Do To Get Your Life Back appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

How Emotional Abuse Can Harm You And What To Do To Get Your Life Back

Unfortunately, emotional abuse is something many people suffer from on some or another level. Whether it is a family member, your partner, or your boss that’s abusing you, this kind of thing can do serious damage to your wellbeing. Emotional abuse can come in many different shapes and forms with different levels of severity. But […]

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How Emotional Abuse Can Harm You And What To Do To Get Your Life Back

Unfortunately, emotional abuse is something many people suffer from on some or another level.

Whether it is a family member, your partner, or your boss that’s abusing you, this kind of thing can do serious damage to your wellbeing.

Emotional abuse can come in many different shapes and forms with different levels of severity.

But just because you haven’t been suffering as much as the next person does not mean that your problem should be ignored. We all go through and deal with different things in our own ways, and we all deserve a good life.

For people who may be wondering what exactly constitutes emotional abuse, as a whole it is basically any form of verbal abuse you may endure. For example if you are being yelled at, threatened and so on. This can also be done in a more subtle way that you might not understand at first – gaslighting falls into that category.

The main reason someone might abuse you emotionally is to gain control over you.

Through crushing your self-esteem and mental defenses they are able to gain the upper hand and even manipulate you at will to do as they please. And while this does not involve physical attacking, it can still be as harmful and just as dangerous (if not more) as physical abuse.

Emotional abuse can change us as people.

It makes it more difficult for us to handle problems in life and leaves us feeling as if we are to blame for our own misfortune, which is not true. Victims of emotional abuse end up questioning their own worth as human beings and that is clearly self-destructive behavior.

When it comes down to healing from emotional abuse the first thing you must do is to make sure you remove the abuser from your life. 

And when you get to a safe environment what you must do is seek out the help of those closest to your heart. They will assist you in getting back on your feet. The more you open up to them about what you’ve been going through the quicker you will find emotional peace and get back to your normal, healthy self.

If you wish to find out more about how to deal with emotional abuse, please see the video below.

Were you a victim of emotional abuse?

What was your approach to dealing with it? You can help our readers by letting them know in the comment section. Also, please share this article if you’ve found it of value. 

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5 Greatly Beneficial Reasons To Respect Others https://iheartintelligence.com/5-greatly-beneficial-reasons-to-respect-others/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:35:21 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63170 The post 5 Greatly Beneficial Reasons To Respect Others appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

5 Greatly Beneficial Reasons To Respect Others

“When we treat people merely as they are, they will remain as they are. When we treat them as if they were what they should be, they will become what they should be.” – Thomas S. Monson A strong society runs on respect. Respect for fellow human beings is crucial to peace and order. But […]

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5 Greatly Beneficial Reasons To Respect Others

“When we treat people merely as they are, they will remain as they are. When we treat them as if they were what they should be, they will become what they should be.”
– Thomas S. Monson

A strong society runs on respect.

Respect for fellow human beings is crucial to peace and order.

But nevertheless, there are a number of different worldviews which cause respect to take a back seat.

We don’t always wish to respect others, especially if they have been disrespectful to us. And there are times when even our family members and partners don’t give us the respect we deserve.

Here are 5 greatly beneficial reasons why you need to respect the people around you, even if you don’t feel like it.

1. In a stable society, respect is a must

One of the great things about a civil society is the respect we show to our fellow citizens. The belief that our family members, neighborhood, city, and nation are all deserving to be respected.

In 1948 the United Nations Assembly adopted The Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Its mission was to provide worthy of respect status to all people no matter where they are in life. No human being is excluded.

2. Respect multiplies

The great thing about doing good things is the blessings that follow. When we show respect to the people we meet, this respect multiplies.

When you show respect even to an undeserving person, you give value to them and can even make them change their ways. Many people are so foreign to the idea that someone could respect them that they return the gesture. Some of the worst people you encounter in life may see the light when shown respect, which in itself is a true miracle!

3. Respect is the foundation of every functioning relationship.

A long-lasting relationship is impossible without mutual respect. People just don’t like to be emotionally neglected. They don’t like to be demeaned, undervalued, dishonored, and disrespected.

If you or your partner are disrespectful to each other there is no way what you have can last. Unless you are happy being in a toxic relationship that is…

Healthy, stable and mutually-beneficial relationships show mutual respect. It is vital to their survival.

4. Respect raises trust

Respect builds bridges and raises trust in people. By showing respect to others you make them see that they have true value. This kindness draws them to you, which, in turn, allows you to form new meaningful connections.

Even though it may be hard to respect some people at times, remember that you will gain more if you do so than if you choose to make them an enemy.

5. Respect is a testimony of character

When it comes to how people see you, they don’t remember whether you lead a healthy lifestyle, give to charity, or go to church. They remember how you made them feel. If you treat people with respect – especially when they are aware that they haven’t earned it – that respect is your testimony. It makes them see a different side of you. A side they are drawn to. Instead of coming to them for payback, you came to give them respect. And that his how you ultimately make people respect you.

Do you believe that every human being no matter how good or bad is deserving of respect?

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5 Key Stages Of Healing From Emotional Trauma https://iheartintelligence.com/key-stages-of-healing-from-emotional-trauma/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:31:17 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=62670 The post 5 Key Stages Of Healing From Emotional Trauma appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

5 Key Stages Of Healing From Emotional Trauma

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” ― Judith Lewis Herman Emotional trauma is everywhere, and so many of us become its victims. When we lose a loved one, or a crushing event breaks our sense of security, […]

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5 Key Stages Of Healing From Emotional Trauma

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.”
― Judith Lewis Herman

Emotional trauma is everywhere, and so many of us become its victims.

When we lose a loved one, or a crushing event breaks our sense of security, we can start seeing our surroundings and even the people around us as potentially threatening. Even if a particular event does not cause us physical harm, being trapped in a state of constant fear can still cause us to live a life of stagnancy.

But what countermeasures can we take against this?

In this article we will explore the key stages of healing from emotional trauma.

1. Take time

Recovery is not instantaneous. Healing requires time. It is truly important to give yourself the necessary time to reflect on what has happened, and to allow yourself to acknowledge your emotions as they are. Processing your experiences and taking the time to accept them is one of the first steps towards recovery. Don’t rush it – take as much time as you need.

2. Share it

If you feel at ease sharing your reflections with your partner, a close friend, or a family member, don’t hesitate to do so. Alternatively, you can write them down by yourself. Describe how and when the painful incident first occurred, what was your reaction then, and how you see the whole event now. Opening up to another person or writing down your emotions and experiences is a vital step in healing. Writing letters (but not sending them) to the people who caused you pain can also truly be an effective method for banishing a negative emotion out of your system.

3. Humor and laughter

Humor and joyful experiences of laughter are crucial in the process of recovery. It will help you immensely in feeling more hopeful and positive. It is emotionally and physically impossible to feel stress and humor simultaneously. There is no better medication for healing from trauma than a good freeing laugh.

4. Seek support from loved ones

When recovering from emotional trauma, it is important to seek the support of others and avoid total isolation. As the saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child,” but it also takes a village to heal a person in need. Surrounding yourself with the people who love, respect and support you will be a highly important step on your path to recovery.

5. Move your body

Gym and other forms of physical exercise release endorphins, and make you feel focused, stable and safe. Regular physical activity is a vital part of your recovery and will help create positive feelings which have been overshadowed by your emotional trauma.

It may not be easy to believe this now, but you must keep in mind that your heart will indeed heal. Love yourself sufficiently to believe that you deserve to be free from this pain and suffering. Through faith and willingness to take the necessary steps, you will experience untapped levels of joy, vitality, and appreciation once you’ve recovered.

For more information on how to heal from emotional trauma, please see the video below.

We hope that this article has helped you get started on your journey towards recovery. Tell us about your own story and healing tips in the comment section and please share this article if you’ve found it of value.

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Narcissists: The Monsters In Disguise https://iheartintelligence.com/narcissists-the-monsters-in-disguise/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:30:40 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63013 The post Narcissists: The Monsters In Disguise appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

Narcissists: The Monsters In Disguise

Narcissists are the worst possible group of people to get into a fight with because rather than trying to find a solution to the problem at hand, the they just turns vicious. Instead of admitting their mistake, the narcissist will keep provoking you until you become enraged and then say that you’re overreacting. At first […]

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Narcissists: The Monsters In Disguise

Narcissists are the worst possible group of people to get into a fight with because rather than trying to find a solution to the problem at hand, the they just turns vicious.

Instead of admitting their mistake, the narcissist will keep provoking you until you become enraged and then say that you’re overreacting.

At first they can seem like the sweetest people you’ll ever meet.

Even when they have ruined your nervous system and made you feel like crap, they will turn on their sweet side just to win you over again. They provoke you in order to crush you and being near them can be quite taxing.

Such people are great at what they do and they do enjoy it too. When it comes down to fighting with a narcissist, breaking away from them is the best solution. The more you argue with them the more you allow them to take control over your mind.

As they share their thoughts with you slowly their fakeness starts to dissolve and you can see them for the rotten souls they really are.

They will deceive you in any way they can and when you truly need their help they will simply disappear. They will cause you pain and suffering and never say sorry and mean it. And the more misery they bring down upon you the more satisfied they will be.

They put you down in all kinds of ways and when you try everything you can to make things work they will go against it. Narcissists never regret doing things they know they shouldn’t and they will claim victimhood status as many times as you allow them.

The more you let narcissists get close to you the farther away your prospects of happiness will go.

They attack you by gaslighting and in the end make you question your own sanity. You deserve more and the quicker you come to terms with that the better off you’ll be.

It’s not a crime to get upset over a nasty person trying to manipulate you and constantly pushing you out of your own skin. You are the only master of your life and you need to regain control over your happiness.

You didn’t overreact and accepting the blame for something you didn’t do will not cut it. And while it certainly won’t be easy getting your life back, you have more than enough strength in you to do just that!

If you wish to learn more about how to deal with a narcissist please see the video below.

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True Love Only Comes as a Result of True Acceptance https://iheartintelligence.com/true-love-only-comes-as-result-of-true-acceptance/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:28:41 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=62796 The post True Love Only Comes as a Result of True Acceptance appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

True Love Only Comes as a Result of True Acceptance

I’d rather argue with you than kiss someone else. – Unknown We live in a society where people have become accustomed to changing their partners on a regular basis. But when you meet the right person in your life, changing them for someone else will be the last thing you’ll ever think of doing. Sure, […]

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True Love Only Comes as a Result of True Acceptance

I’d rather argue with you than kiss someone else.

– Unknown

We live in a society where people have become accustomed to changing their partners on a regular basis.

But when you meet the right person in your life, changing them for someone else will be the last thing you’ll ever think of doing.

Sure, life would be much better if we just accepted each other with all our faults, but unfortunately that’s not something we can manage.

However, if you wish to have a fulfilling relationship, you would have to close your eyes on some of your partner’s imperfections. People who want to mold their partners into their own image or control them are incapable of achieving a loving union.

When it comes down to love we must find ways to fit together and make it work, and pushing others to change has never worked and never will work. The people in your circle will never be the people you want them to be and the sooner you face that fact the easier your life will be and the more headaches and heartaches you will save yourself.

True bonds between partners are about acceptance, understanding, and full commitment.

You accept your partner for who they are and as time goes by you start accepting and even appreciating all their little imperfections. Your journey will not always be trouble-free, but you are both in it together, and that will make it much easier to bear.

The sooner you come to accept your partner for who they are the better. They have their own reasons for being the way they are and making sure you understand that instead of making them change themselves is always the wisest way to go. Do so, and in the end you will find that you’ve come to understand each other on a much more profound level.

You can fight through life together without having the same way of thinking.

Having the ability to properly communicate and resolve your problems on such a pure level will make any relationship grow and prosper in more ways than you ever thought possible. The more we contribute to keep this kind of union stable the better of our lives will be.

Rather than making our partner suffer we are able to see past their faults and see them from a place that allows us both to evolve emotionally and spiritually. Yes, there will be things about them that will at times drive you mad, but you will also come to recognize that you yourself are not perfect either.

The more of an open mind you have for these things the quicker you will come to understand acceptance is the only way forward.

We can only evolve as couples by being more understanding towards each other. And once we start doing that, we will be enjoying the fruits of the pure union that is called love.

We hope that this article has helped you think in a clearer way when it comes to your relationships. Let us know your thoughts on the subject by writing us a comment and please share this article if you’ve found it of value.

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If You Want To Find True Happiness, Stop Giving Energy To Negative People https://iheartintelligence.com/if-you-want-to-find-true-happiness-stop-giving-energy-to-negative-people/ Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:28:00 +0000 https://iheartintelligence.com/?p=63319 The post If You Want To Find True Happiness, Stop Giving Energy To Negative People appeared first on I Heart Intelligence.com.

If You Want To Find True Happiness, Stop Giving Energy To Negative People

All the people you spend time with or allow to be near you are people you are giving part of your energy to. And the more you energize them, the more they will either help you succeed in life or take you down with them. If you want true happiness in your life, you must […]

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If You Want To Find True Happiness, Stop Giving Energy To Negative People

All the people you spend time with or allow to be near you are people you are giving part of your energy to.

And the more you energize them, the more they will either help you succeed in life or take you down with them.

If you want true happiness in your life, you must stop sharing your energy with negative and toxic individuals.

And the sooner you realize how poisonous these people are to your wellbeing, the better. If you feel like they are not making you a better but worse person, they are in your way and must be removed.

Being happy does not involve being surrounded by as many people as possible, it is about being with those who make you think in new ways and are always there for you in times of need. But sadly, you will also, at some point, experience the negativity of those who make you feel like you’re nothing. And they certainly do not deserve even a taste of your attention.

Toxic people can even be among our friends or family members, and we aren’t always aware of that until damage has been done to us.

On a more positive note, the sooner you manage to take their masks off the more trouble you will save yourself from in the long run. But beware, as these people will do all they can to cling on to you and control you. Once you break free from them you will finally be able to become the person you always wanted to be.

You are in charge of your life and you have the right to choose who stays in and who stays out.

Naturally, you might not feel good at first for cutting these people off, but once it’s over you will be happy you made the choice. No matter how much you wish for it, you cannot change the people in your life, and they will either be good or toxic. This is a crucial fact you must come to terms with.

If someone is saying foul things about others to you, chances are they’re talking negatively to others about you too. And that is a great place to start when it comes to identifying such people. But keep in mind that some are going to be much sneakier in what they do. Keeping an eye on whether they back up their words with actions is a solid way to keep them at a distance.

If someone is making you feel suffocated, don’t think twice about kicking them out of your life without even repeating the reasons why.

They will figure things out on their own, and if that experience helps them in changing their ways, then that’s good too.

Life is not eternal, and we need to make the most of it while we can. Do not permit toxic people to ruin your life experience – it is yours and you should be in full control of it.

Being happy isn’t that hard. When you know what you want, when you chase your dreams without giving up, and when you stop giving your energy to negative people, it will come to you.

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If Your Crush Rarely Texts You It Could Mean More Than One Thing...

We tend to excuse people in our lives for things we cannot quite comprehend. If you ever spend ages waiting for a message or you had your crush decide not to go out without last minute with a lousy excuse, or you’ve been ditched so they can hang out with their friends, you know it’s […]

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If Your Crush Rarely Texts You It Could Mean More Than One Thing...

We tend to excuse people in our lives for things we cannot quite comprehend. If you ever spend ages waiting for a message or you had your crush decide not to go out without last minute with a lousy excuse, or you’ve been ditched so they can hang out with their friends, you know it’s not a great feeling.

Waiting for a crush to text you back for days can be a shattering and heartbreaking experience.

But maybe their excuses are valid. Maybe they had to work late or they really were busy with something important and couldn’t respond. But let’s be real, if you have shown your crush that you’re really interested in them and they’re rarely contacting you it means that they have more important things to do and people to see than you. If they truly were interested, they would make time no matter what.

But don’t think that the delay in contact as necessarily a rejection.

You crush might have feelings for you but they might have some issues in life currently that don’t allow them to enjoy themselves the way they would want to.

Maybe they have a personal life issue in need of solving and are under too much stress for dating. Don’t rush to assume that the fault lies in you.

Another thing is, rather than waiting for signs that they might be interested, approach them straight on and tell them how you feel.

It is highly likely that showing some guts when it comes to expressing your feelings will earn you their respect and they will like you even more. Don’t take too long to express it. A simple “I like you” would do the job. Come what may after that.

And while it can feel safer to just wait for signs and hints, if you focus your energy into forming a stronger connection with your crush, you will deserve to know whether they have feelings for you too.

Whatever the answer may be, at least you tried and you can now move on without having to waste any more of each other’s time.

It’s time to stop being afraid of rejection, and become a stronger person by being more brave and direct with the people you like.

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