“Sometimes we must undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds, which shatter the flattering image that we had of ourselves, in order to discover two truths: that we are not who we thought we were; and that the loss of a cherished pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true happiness and well-being.”
― Jean-Yves Leloup
Have you experienced heartache and emotional betrayal? Do these memories still haunt you to this day?
If so, you may be emotionally wounded.
Emotional wounds are synonymous with emotional or psychological trauma, and the effects of these wounds can be harmful to your overall wellbeing. Not many but yourself will be able to notice that you’re emotionally wounded at first glance, and sometimes even you might not realize it.
Here are 7 signs you’re emotionally wounded no one notices (sometimes not even you).
1. You lose interest in the things that used to make you happy
The aftermath of emotional pain can make it difficult for you to focus on the things you used to enjoy and get the most satisfaction out of your free time. You will feel a lack of motivation because your negative emotions are probably more in control of you than you may realize. Once you understand that you are no longer having fun doing the things that used to make you happy, ask yourself why that is and avoid spending your days doing nothing. The more you do nothing, the more often your emotional wounds will come back to haunt and hurt you.
2. You have low self-esteem
Emotional wounds can be truly painful, and they can often make you doubt your abilities to do great things in life. You may want to look back at the events that opened them and made you feel worthless, guilty, or ashamed. Also, keep in mind that these feelings are most likely a sign of an emotional wound and not a reflection of who you truly are as a person. Your mind may be rewinding a certain past experience by pulling you down in order to make sense of what has happened to you. But in time, you will be able to deal with the past and leave it behind where it belongs, all while regaining your self-worth in the process.
3. People’s behaviors annoy you easily
Emotional pain will also make you easily annoyed by the behaviors of those around you. You will likely take many things to heart and get offended easily, even if what was said to you was meant as a joke. The emotional wounds that you still carry will make you avoid mixing with others and it ultimately leads to social withdrawal and anxiety. Although having some time for yourself is healthy for your general wellbeing, keep in mind that being open with other people can also help you get through any pain that may be troubling you.
4. You have a messy sleeping schedule
Do you have a hard time falling asleep? Are you sleeping more than you think you should? Do you often wake up at random times in the night? Sleeping disruption may be the result of an emotional wound, and this is problematic for many reasons. For instance, you might have a lot of nighttime anxiety, nightmares, or have so much adrenaline rushing through you that you simply cannot fall asleep.
If that is the case, you must address the core issue, and it is advisable that you talk to a professional about it.
5. You feel hopeless and as if you have no worth
Your emotional wounds will most likely make you attack yourself for not being good enough for the world. You will blame yourself for everything that goes wrong and you will feel broken beyond repair. When you get into this state of darkness, try to reach out to your loved ones and seek emotional help and understanding from them. Your social circle is the most important thing during such times of despair.
6. You shed tears over little things
Your emotional wounds can often trigger you to cry because you often feel the pain within on a subconscious level. You will easily cry over books, movies and become deeply moved when something touches your soul. When you get into this mode of being, try to understand its deeper cause. It could be a sign that you have unattended pains to take care of.
7. You keep rewinding the bad memories in your head
When you cannot shake yourself off from a hurtful past experience and it keeps on revisiting your mind, there is a chance that it has turned into an emotional wound. Your struggle to leave the painful past behind is in fact a sign that you should acknowledge that experience and accept the pain that it carries. Try to look for the reason why it caused you such immense emotional pain accept that it is totally normal to feel this way from time to time.
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