He loves me, he loves me not…
A man who is truly interested in a woman will find an endless number of reasons why he must see her. A man who is just playing around or confused about his own feelings will find an endless number of excuses why he didn’t show up. -Charles J. Orlando
Men and women speak different languages when it comes to love and relationships. That’s why, if you’re seriously falling for someone who’s not openly showing you their interest, it’s natural to wonder if this guy is into you the same way or he’s only interested as a friend.
Keep an eye out for these 10 types of behavior which reveal that he’s actually falling for you.
1. Phones You
Only texting or messaging is a roundabout way of showing he’s actually not that into you. Guys who aren’t serious or see you as a friend, might keep distance and communicate indirectly. But if he keeps calling and talking with you over the phone in his free time, he’s most likely got feelings for you. A man won’t lose time in long phone talks, unless he’s into you and needs to hear your voice badly. And this is cute!
2. Pays attention to you
He’s always trying to keep in touch. He calls texts and messages you. He reacts to your posts in social media. He’s usually the first one to like your new Facebook profile picture. On the top of that, he takes every occasion to talk to you. He calls you just to say “Good morning” or “Good night”. He asks how your day was, notices your new dress or hairstyle and pays you a compliment. Usually, when men are that obsessed with a lady, it’s because they are falling for her. You should pay attention!
3. Wants to know who you really are
Guys who aren’t much into you might not be that interested in your personality. But a man who’s falling for you would like to know everything. No topic of conversation is boring for him so long as it’s related to you. He’ll be happy to listen about your favorite music band or the problems that you’ve been having with your best friend lately. He’ll watch your family pictures with interest and would listen to the funny stories from your childhood.
4. Listens and remembers
Girls love long conversations, men don’t. Guys can’t handle all the gossips and drama women talk about. A man would often just pretend he’s listening to you. However, he changes when he falls for a chick. Her opinion matters to him. He listens and tries to remember what she says. He’s interested in her tastes. He wants to know what kind of food, movies or sport she likes. He values what she thinks and wants to learn more about it. If you notice that the guy you’ve been flirting with lately is all ears while you’re talking, he might be seriously into you.
Sadly, nowadays being a gentleman is not typical of all men. If you notice that he’s been kind and chivalrous, it might be a good sign he’s actually falling for you. He’ll do things like pulling out your chair or holding doors open for you. He will offer to drive you after work and might even want to bring your heavy bags to the door when he drops you home. The point is to make you feel at ease and comfortable in his presence and like him as much as he likes you.
6. Gives you nicknames
If a guy’s falling for you, he’ll use sweet nicknames instead of addressing you by name. Calling you baby, babe, sweetheart…etc. reveals his feelings of affection for you. He might also use pet names or makeup jokes about you two, involving goofy nicknames. The last one could sound a bit blunt. However, according to a research on couples’ “secret language”, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the more goofy names or made-up words a couple used, the higher the relationship satisfaction would be. If he keeps calling you nicknames, he’s trying to build intimacy with you and is very likely to be seriously falling for you.
7. He’s generous with you
If a man is falling for you, he’ll be generous. He might try to impress you. But this doesn’t mean he’ll always buy you super expensive gifts. He might surprise you with a small gesture like paying your drink in the bar or buying you a cute teddy bear. There are other forms of generosity he could display toward you, as well. Paying you lots of compliments might be one of them. He could also let you drive his car, which is really a sign he’s really into you.
8. Smiles when he sees you
A Yiddish proverb says that “Three things can’t be hidden: coughing, poverty, and love.”
Even if he’s not telling you directly he’s into you, his unconscious signals can be extremely telling about his inner emotions. Especially, when it comes to strong feelings like love or hatred. Pay attention if a man smiles and whether his whole face lights up every time he sees you. This surely means he’s not indifferent. Genuine smiles extend beyond the mouth. When his stretches along the whole face, it’s a signal he’s strongly affected in a positive way and has something about you. If you notice that a man who looks at you with a love-struck grin every time you meet, he could, actually, be falling for you.
9. Wants you to feel safe
A guy who’s into you wants to protect you. He’ll do whatever it takes to make you feel secure when he’s around. If it’s late, he’ll walk you home. He’ll call a cab and phone to check whether you got home if you’re too far from your house. If you’re watching a horror movie, he’ll hug you and cover your eyes during the bone-chilling scenes. He might even save the day by killing the big hairy spider which is scaring you to death.
10. Shows long-term interest
Maybe one of the most obvious signs that, actually he’s into you, is the fact he’s making plans for you two. If he’s thinking where to spend your next summer holiday or is asking whether you want to go to a cottage in the mountain this weekend, he’s showing a long-term interest in you.
According to Amy Levine, sex coach, “Making future plans is a healthy ingredient for a growing relationship. It’s also an indicator of the commitment you have to each other.”
If he’s making plans about both of you, it means your relationship is becoming more serious. It is getting to a next level, which is an indication he’s really falling for you.
Last but not least, ladies should remember that men speak through their actions. A man’s behavior could reveal what are his intentions for you. If you’re unsure whether the guy you’ve been falling for is into you, just being friendly or only wants to be in your pants, the tips you’ve just read might come in useful.