Did you know that chronic complaining actually changes your brain in a physical way? As Steven Parton explains, “Throughout your brain there is a collection of synapses separated by empty space called the synaptic cleft. Whenever you have a thought, one synapse shoots a chemical across the cleft to another synapse, thus building a bridge over which an electric signal can cross, carrying along its charge the relevant information you’re thinking about.”

“Here’s the kicker,” he continues. “Every time this electrical charge is triggered, the synapses grow closer together in order to decrease the distance the electrical charge has to cross. This is a microcosmic example of evolution, of adaptation. The brain is rewiring its own circuitry, physically changing itself, to make it easier and more likely that the proper synapses will share the chemical link and thus spark together–in essence, making it easier for the thought to trigger.”

Every time we complain, our brain changes to make it easier to find negativity again.

This is dangerous when we consider that we do, essentially, live in our thoughts. Our brain decides how we experience our world. Just as a negative experience can be spun into a positive one, a wonderful thing can be ruined by a negative outlook. Our thoughts construct our reality. If you convince yourself that you live in a world of negativity, this is what will become true to you.