How can you tell if your first date was a success?
For many, the thought of first dates can be extremely nerve-racking. What is worse, once the date is over, it is not always easy to tell if it was a success. It is not uncommon for people to feel disappointed when they find out that their date did not enjoy the evening as much as they did. Undoubtedly, it can be difficult to get out of your head, stop overthinking, and look at things subjectively.
There are 12 signs of a successful first date:
1. It lasted longer than you expected.
If your date lasted much longer than you had initially anticipated, it was most likely successful. The fact that it lasted longer means that your date wanted to spend as much time as possible with you.
2. You never felt the urge to look at your phone.
If you were out for three hours and you never felt the urge to glance at your texts, then you probably found your date way more interesting than your phone. This is a good sign, especially in our day and age when people are always distracted by their phones.
3. You felt like you could be yourself.
When looking for a partner, you must choose someone who does not make you feel like you have to hide your true self. Instead, you need to find someone who makes you feel comfortable. So, if you felt like you could show your true colors, be goofy, and make jokes without feeling judged, you definitely had a good date.
4. They listened to you and asked questions.
If your date listened to what you had to say and asked follow-up questions, they were interested in what you had to say. Furthermore, this means that they are probably keen on finding out more on a second date!
5. They mirrored your actions.
If they mimicked your body language, smiled when you smiled and reached for their glass when you did, they may have felt a strong connection to you. Of course, feeling a connection is always a sign of a good date.
6. They ‘friended’ you after the date.
Did you come home and find a friend request from your date on Facebook? More importantly, did it make you feel happy? If you had a bad date, you might have felt irritated seeing the request.
7. Your date said their friends would love you.
If they said or suggested this, it means that they imagine spending more time with you. Moreover, they imagine you meeting their friends. Naturally, this is a good sign as it means that they want to continue getting to know you.
8. You walked home instead of taking a taxi.
If you decided to walk home so that you could spend more time together, you definitely had a good date. Not wanting the date to end is a clear sign that you both enjoyed the night.
9. They texted or called within 24 hours after the date.
They would not text or call if they did not have a nice time. If they called on the day after the date and suggested ideas for a second date, you do not need to worry.
10. You talked about more than just everyday things.
Did the conversation progress from small talk to more meaningful topics? Being able to share deep and personal stories not only means that you are comfortable with one another but that you also feel a strong connection.
11. You both appreciated your differences.
Two people do not have to be similar to be compatible. It is important to be able to accept and appreciate one another despite your differences. Just because you are different does not mean you are not meant to be together.
12. You ended the date with a hug or a kiss.
The end of the night can reveal a lot about how your date felt. If they ended the date with a hug or a kiss, then they most likely had a wonderful time. Similarly, if the conversation kept going long after you had reached your front door, then your date probably did not want the night to come to an end at all. In this case, you should be expecting a second date!
How can you ensure your second date is just as good?
1. Relax!
If you have been asked on a second date, you already know they like spending time with you. This means that instead of being nervous and stressing yourself out, you should relax and be your true self. Let them see the fun side of you.
2. Go somewhere different
If you went to a restaurant on your first date, be more adventurous this time. Depending on where you live, you might choose to go to the beach or a picnic instead. Choose something more exciting where you will be able to get to know your date on a deeper level.
3. Dig deeper
Ask those questions that you were too nervous to ask on your first date. It is worth mentioning, however, that while you can and should dig a little deeper, you should also be careful not to cross a line.
4. Make jokes
A second date is the perfect time to make a joke or two. Having a sense of humor is extremely important and you need to make sure that you and your date are compatible.
5. Talk about each other’s passions
Find out what inspires your date and ask them what they feel passionate about. One of the most exciting things about dating is finding out one another’s goals, dreams, and ambitions.
6. Recall details from your first date
By asking them to expand on things they mentioned on your first date, you show them that you not only listened but that you were also interested. Showing that you remember the little things will leave a positive impression on your date.
7. Use body language
Let them know that you like them by giving small hints. Use body language and physical touch to convey your interest in them. However, be careful not to give away too much as you might scare them away.
8. Suggest a third date
If you are feeling confident and brave, come up with an exciting idea and suggest a third date. Their reaction and response will let you know how they felt about the second date.
9. Tell them you like them
Very few people are open and honest as they choose to play hard to get and keep their cards hidden. If you reveal your feelings and let them know you like them, you will show your date that you are not interested in playing games. What is more, they will feel relieved as they will no longer have to wonder and guess how you feel.
Good luck and have fun!
