There is a belief that we only fall in love with 3 people in our lives, and each one has a very specific purpose.
We each experience different types of love in our lives. People come and go throughout the years, and we face highs and lows we never thought we would.
Yet despite those differences, there are glaring similarities.
We each only fall in love with three types of people, and those people play very important roles in our lives.
1. The Fairy Tale Love
We grew up seeing this type of love on movie screens, television, and hearing stories of the prince and princess who “lived happily ever after.” It’s the love we aspired to have, and assumed would be easy.
This love was the one that showed you how hard it is to pretend to be something you’re not. It looked perfect from the outside, and it’s what society would call “a good fit,” but it wasn’t you. You believed this would be your only real love because it looked so good on paper, and all those things you dreamed of from the stories you heard growing up were finally yours.
It is this type of love that makes us hold the opinions and views of others above our own wants and needs.
2. The Toxic Love
This is the hardest one of all- the toxic love. The one that you really believed was different from the last.
This type of love teaches you more about yourself than you’d like to see, but it’s transformative, even if extremely painful. Lies, manipulation, and drama are key points in the unhealthy cycles of toxic love, and they keep you hooked, whether you want to be addicted or not. Always searching for the next high- the next “good time”, despite constantly being surrounded by the bad moods, and bad feelings. This is the one you tell yourself “it will work out,” “it will be okay.” It’s the type of love you wished was right.
When you experience this type of love, the act of trying to make it work becomes more important than whether or not it should.
3. The Misconception Love
Were you ready for this type of love? Nope. Not even close.
This love catches you off-guard and disguises itself in misconceptions. It looks completely wrong for you, and that takes all of those ideas about what love is “supposed to be” and reduces them to a pile of rubble.
It happened so easily for something so unexpected. In fact, you doubted the actuality that it was really happening. The connections between you two can’t be explained (no matter how hard you try) and the realization that someone out there truly gets you is perplexing and fantastic all at the same time.
With this type of love, there isn’t a standard way that someone should be- you are accepted for you, and you love them for who they are.
This kind of absolute acceptance shakes you, and your beliefs on love, to their very core.
While it’s true that not everyone will go through these 3 types of love, there is something to learn from them.
Maybe you haven’t had all three of these in your life, but maybe you’re not ready to just yet. Knowing what love isn’t sometimes needs to be learned, before we figure out what love is.
“I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.” ―Lisa Kleypas
By Raven Fon