Life isn’t nearly as complicated as we make it sometimes. Trust me, I know how naive that sounds.
The truth is, that we tend to complicate our existences with the clutter of a hectic life, more than we even realize. Simplification can seem like a pipe dream, but I assure you there are things you can do right now, today, that will bring simplicity back toy our world quicker than you think.
Take a second to really consider these 5 simple things, you’ll be surprised the impact that they can have.
I’ve talked in the past about the theory of a “worry list”. Basically, the idea was to make a literal list of the things that you worry about every day and work through them to reduce the number of items on the list. The theory was just as sound then as it is now. When I say “make a list” I mean get a piece of paper and write down the things in your life that YOU feel are complicating your existence. Don’t just kick the idea in your head – make it tangible. Consider this step to be like a diagnosis of an illness.
Armed with your list of complications, take a minute to assess the things that you can and cannot change. Think about the root of the items on the list. Give an objective view to all of the things that are robbing you of your simplicity. How many of the things on the list are out of your hands? How many center around an action that you perpetrate? How many are just useless worries?
3. Trim the Fat
This is the key. Once you’ve identified and assessed these “complicators”, be realistic about which things on your list that you can actually control. Again, I know this sounds naive, but something about looking at a tangible list, and saying to yourself, “I can’t fix that, because it is out of my control”, holds more sway over your brain than you’d think. It’s like making a road map to simplicity, by choosing your own route.
4. Focus on You
Another key here is to quit worrying about what other people think. For instance, let’s say that one of the things you find complicating your life is keeping up with the busy social schedule of a group of friends. You’re afraid to say no to them because of what they will think of you, even if it is what you need to do. Well, if they are true friends, they will understand your need for time to yourself. If they don’t, they weren’t friends to begin with.
5. Accept Things for What They Are
One thing to keep in mind throughout this whole process is being realistic about the things in your life that are complicating things. Don’t make something out of nothing just for the sake of having something to complain about. Complaining and worrying are two of the most counter-productive activities in life. Be realistic about what you are capable of. Be realistic about what it is that YOU want.
Simplification in itself is an art form that requires a little practice. This entire process that I just lined out is an actual practice of mine that I go through on a weekly basis. I wouldn’t recommend something that I wouldn’t do myself.